depending on country... label should be the R+M/2 number...
RON is just research octane number(always higher), MON is motor octane number(always lower)..
the label octane is a basic average for use in comparing fuel octanes due to this difference...
when people say i use "91 premium" normally in the United States that would mean they use R+M/2 91...
as to which you should use, i would say R+M/2 as it takes into account "bad conditions" like high heat and stresses, into the octane rating...
certain high RON octane fuels due to vapor pressures etc. are actually very poor MON fuels.... this is why fuels are always a mixture of various things rather than straight one thing or another...
my .02