i lost my Kira and it hurts
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I am so sorry for your loss. I believe children are sent to us on loan from God. He decides when it is their time to come home. Maybe in some small way it might help lessen the pain.
Our nephew went through almost the same thing with his son, who died at 22 months. Dustin's mother was too busy partying with her friends to keep an eye and an ear out for her son and he opened the unlocked back door went to the gate for the pool area and decided he wanted to play in the water. His 8 and 10 year old cousins found him 30 minutes later! Makes me angry to even think about it and I just can't imagine what it does to our nephew.
He spent the first 3 or 4 years afterwards, abusing drugs, alcohol, people, whatever he could get his hands on. Finally after much pleading from the family and a nice long walk home from the police station, in a rain storm at 2 am, he decided this was not the way to live. He started going on line to a grief site for other parents who have lost children and attended a few local meetings. I am so proud of the young man he has become. Dustin will always be in his heart and mind and I am sure 8/30 and 7/1 will always be days of reflection and sadness, but there is also joy now too.
There is no time table on grief you just have to work through it. Let your loved ones help you and love you. They lost someone precious too.
Sending you prayers of comfort and peace.
Our nephew went through almost the same thing with his son, who died at 22 months. Dustin's mother was too busy partying with her friends to keep an eye and an ear out for her son and he opened the unlocked back door went to the gate for the pool area and decided he wanted to play in the water. His 8 and 10 year old cousins found him 30 minutes later! Makes me angry to even think about it and I just can't imagine what it does to our nephew.
He spent the first 3 or 4 years afterwards, abusing drugs, alcohol, people, whatever he could get his hands on. Finally after much pleading from the family and a nice long walk home from the police station, in a rain storm at 2 am, he decided this was not the way to live. He started going on line to a grief site for other parents who have lost children and attended a few local meetings. I am so proud of the young man he has become. Dustin will always be in his heart and mind and I am sure 8/30 and 7/1 will always be days of reflection and sadness, but there is also joy now too.
There is no time table on grief you just have to work through it. Let your loved ones help you and love you. They lost someone precious too.
Sending you prayers of comfort and peace.
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lets just hope my Kira is a Black Bird.
Chimmy, i weep with you my Brother. it is almost creepy how much Riley looks like his sister. he is so cool. i've been pokin him while he sleeps all night. i love him and miss her soo much.
i remember her funeral like it was yesterday.
at her viewing i let out a the war cry of pain of a Cherokee tribal leader and father. upon seeing Kira's coffin i cut my 4' ponytail. i screamed so loud it shook the souls of all gathered in my church. and angered the Arapaho that wanted to be a part of the hair cutting ceremony. the bikers blocking intersections on the way to the cemetery freaked out most of my family. they had never experienced how my brothers escort one to the grave. Kira had 150 bikes at her funeral. the sky cried!
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red1100cc
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i go on the groww chat site (a safe 24/7 place to grieve) often and my wife has formed a Bereaved Parents of the USA chapter here in Casper to help others.
my prayers for you, me and everyone else.
teach your kids to swim. it is important.
rockethead
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red, i am sorry for your loss. I looked at the websites and they are great. You always have all of us for friendship and support. I may not have met you yet but u could camp in my yard or sip some beers together anytime. I hope talking about it helps a little.
where is the crying emotocon?
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agreed Rider, cuz sometimtes.... life leaves you speechless indeed, and I know this is one of those.
lease:lease:
I couldn't even imagine what you have went through. Truly sorry for the loss and the pain that you feel each year.
Russ as said words cannot ease or express anything.
I remember talking about this with you when you were here.
She's waiting for you in paradise.
You've got my number , call anytime
Peace brother.
I remember talking about this with you when you were here.
She's waiting for you in paradise.
Peace brother.
Russ, I couldn't get through you post without breaking down. I can feel the heaviness of your greif and pain through your written expressions.........
I pray that God will send peace to your broken heart, and heal the open wound left by this horrible thing.
Please watch yourself, be vigilent that you do not go into a dark place where no one knows how bad it is for you or a place where you can not be helped.
I know you don't know me, but I do belive we are brothers on this org. I am sending you my cell number. If you need to vent, curse, scream at someone, cry and weep, or just talk, call me anytime day or night. I mean that, ANYTIME. Just take care of yourself and your family, you must be strong for them as you are the leader. Your road is rough but I believe with all my heart that it leads to a better place.
I pray that God will send peace to your broken heart, and heal the open wound left by this horrible thing.
Please watch yourself, be vigilent that you do not go into a dark place where no one knows how bad it is for you or a place where you can not be helped.
I know you don't know me, but I do belive we are brothers on this org. I am sending you my cell number. If you need to vent, curse, scream at someone, cry and weep, or just talk, call me anytime day or night. I mean that, ANYTIME. Just take care of yourself and your family, you must be strong for them as you are the leader. Your road is rough but I believe with all my heart that it leads to a better place.
Hang in there bro, even though the pain is everlasting, The hurt goes away in time. Your in my thoughts brother.
Dam Russ, as a father I sit here in tears. I cant imagine the pain you are feeling. With 4 children of my own I coulnt imagine the sheer terror of this thought. I weep with you and pray that God can give you comfort. You are a stonger man than I, and I do hope you find peace my friend. If there is ever anything I can do please let me know. My co-workers are wondering why I am crying here in my cubicle. God Bless you, and I will be praying for you and your family.
I don't know what to say Russ, seems like my words are so small in comparison. Hang in there and reach out to whoever ya need to get ya through this.
Very sorry brother....
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I'm very sorry for your loss my friend. I know you will see her again one day.
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I wish I could say something to help you. Prayers is all I have. This song might bless you.
- One Day Closer[/url]
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red1100cc
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thank you all for you prayers and kind words. i spent the morning watching Across the Universe and crying.
i probably won't call anyone. i hate to cry on the phone. thank you for the offers though.
i think i'll go get me a pepsi and cry in the bar til i pick up my son from school. i could really use some lovin from my sisters there.
i will be ok by monday. i just gotta hang tough. i don't know why, but the loss of Kira is really hitting my wife and i pretty hard this year.
it feels good to know were not alone. thank you all.
We little knew that day,
God was going to call your name.
In life we loved you dearly,
In death, we do the same.
It broke our hearts to lose you.
You did not go alone.
For part of us went with you,
The day God called you home.
You left us beautiful memories,
Your love is still our guide.
And although we cannot see you,
You are always at our side.
Our family chain is broken,
And nothing seems the same,
But as God calls us one by one,
The chain will link again.
lease:
i probably won't call anyone. i hate to cry on the phone. thank you for the offers though.
i think i'll go get me a pepsi and cry in the bar til i pick up my son from school. i could really use some lovin from my sisters there.
i will be ok by monday. i just gotta hang tough. i don't know why, but the loss of Kira is really hitting my wife and i pretty hard this year.
it feels good to know were not alone. thank you all.
We little knew that day,
God was going to call your name.
In life we loved you dearly,
In death, we do the same.
It broke our hearts to lose you.
You did not go alone.
For part of us went with you,
The day God called you home.
You left us beautiful memories,
Your love is still our guide.
And although we cannot see you,
You are always at our side.
Our family chain is broken,
And nothing seems the same,
But as God calls us one by one,
The chain will link again.
lease:
Hugs and more hugs!!! You will see her again someday!!
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