Wow, Mike, so sorry to hear about your wife's ordeal. I hope she is doing better.
My rule is, if it is in the house, it is dead!!!! Outside and minding its own business, even if I get in its way, is OK. Gets in my way or comes after me, DEAD!!!!!
I was heading back to ST Louis MO from Dallas TX a couple years ago and was on route 69 (?). Anyway, out in the middle of nowhere OK and I see down the road this large black spot in the road. I am thinking debri, just straddle it and no biggy. I get closer, I see a leg stick out and the black spot starts to move. I freaked out. It was a huge spider. I finally at the last minute decided to straddle it, cause after all I was in a car doing 60 mph and it was a spider not hurting anything. I look in my rear view mirror to make sure I didn't kill it and it was no where to be seen. Now I really start to freak out. I am thinking this thing jumped up onto my car and is trying to find a way inside. I stopped for gas about an hour later and I tell you, I was a little scared to get out of my car. I was wishing they still had the full service gas stations. But I finally sucked it up and got out of the car. Didn't see anything crawl off while standing up on the isle by the gas pump
and didn't see anything on the tires. I figure that spider was fast and moved off the road. When I drove back down there the next week, I kept the windows up and picking wildflowers on the side of the road (was going to dry them and send them in one of the soldier's care packages - a little bit of home) was off my list.