kf the army.

[ogre]

it's going to destroy my marriage. i'm paranoid, angry, on edge, and extremely short tempered. i swear, if it wasn't for alcohol, i'd have already ended up in jail for punching someone out, or just flat wigging out. i'm 27 years old being treated like a child, and i'm 6000 miles away from my wife. the "thank you's" aren't worth this nonsense, and the pay certainly isn't. what's really jacked up is as soon as i get back stateside and actually see my wife, i'm probably going to end up deploying right away. so by then it'll be 22 months away from home, figure another 2 for predeployment training, and then ad 12 for the deployment, so 36 months from when i signed up for this nonsense, i MIGHT be able to pretend that i'm married for awhile. i joined the Army so my wife would have insurance, and i'd have a decent paycheck, but at the rate i'm going with this BS, i'll be single by the time i finish my term.

 

[Blanca BusaLess]

Ogre, Matthew......

I don't know what to say to you to ease your pain and what you must be going thru.
I'm sorry your away from family for so long. It must be difficult on your wife. Hopefully she understands your doing this for her as well as for yourself. All I can say is there are many out there who are indebted to you eternally for the sacrifices you're making. Thank you if it means anything.

When you get home where are you deploying to?

 

[sportcustoms71]

man i feel your pain....been through similiar stuff......man rant and raive all you want on here. i remember my first deployment, just got married and two days after we got married, found out that i was deploying to Iraq and had no clue. what a great way to spend my first year of marriage and what a great way to bring my wife into the military. in the end man, so far two deployments and our marriage is even better now. i tell yah man even back here stateside there's so my bull crap and it just plain suck and i get the same way you are right now. lol alcohol is amazing, but like i said if you need to rant just holler.....Me, Russell and there are a few others on here. Semper Fi brother

 

[zukracer]

thought there was some required downtime between deployments .... or are you SF

 

[ogre]

thanks guys, i appreciate it. i mean, it's nothing that a nice, long ride and a tall, ice cold beer wouldn't fix, but i can't really indulge in either where i am. not for another 8 months anyway. i know i'm being a whiney bish, and many men better than myself have made greater sacrifices, but sometimes i question whether it's really worth it. we (chels and i) were happier when we were broke as a joke, living in the hood in orlando florida with only 1/2 our vehicles functional, than we are now. i really don't know if it's worth it. maybe i've just been in garrison too long. it's like nothing worthwhile gets done here. not only that, i've been stuck pushing papers for 3 months because i've pissed off the wrong E7. i really wish i had some other friends here. i wish my wife was here, i miss my dogs, my bike, my jeep, and my house. fml. at least i can keep a roof over her head in the mean time. pray for me fellas, this has been the worst day i've had in awhile. then again, compared to some of the days my buddies have had, this is cake, so wtfe. ugh.

 

[sportcustoms71]

nahhhhh man i've seen some of my boys get back and before i new it they were gone again. i got home from my 9 month deployment and then 6 months later i was back in iraq. felt like i never left.

thought there was some required downtime between deployments .... or are you SF

 

[ogre]

thought there was some required downtime between deployments .... or are you SF

there is a required amount of dwell (not deployed) time between deployments. however, korea is not considered a deployment, just a "hardship tour". so it's the worst of both worlds, no family like a deployment, but the pay is the same as back in the states. and as soon as i get back, i'm eligible for deployment, 12-15 months.

 

[sportcustoms71]

beer is good, but what i do after a long day of bullsh8t i go throw on some headphones with some heavy metal music and kill myself at the gym. i know there's a lot more guys out there with far worse situations, but it you man that matters at the moment. hahaha i know all about pissing off the wrong E7 "Gunny" and i'm a Sergeant and sometimes i still get treated like a boot PFC. i just turn around and tell them to have a motivated day, which basically means F-you in Marine lingo

thanks guys, i appreciate it. i mean, it's nothing that a nice, long ride and a tall, ice cold beer wouldn't fix, but i can't really indulge in either where i am. not for another 8 months anyway. i know i'm being a whiney bish, and many men better than myself have made greater sacrifices, but sometimes i question whether it's really worth it. we (chels and i) were happier when we were broke as a joke, living in the hood in orlando florida with only 1/2 our vehicles functional, than we are now. i really don't know if it's worth it. maybe i've just been in garrison too long. it's like nothing worthwhile gets done here. not only that, i've been stuck pushing papers for 3 months because i've pissed off the wrong E7. i really wish i had some other friends here. i wish my wife was here, i miss my dogs, my bike, my jeep, and my house. fml. at least i can keep a roof over her head in the mean time. pray for me fellas, this has been the worst day i've had in awhile. then again, compared to some of the days my buddies have had, this is cake, so wtfe. ugh.

 

[09BusaDrvr]

Hey young trooper...first, you aren't deployable right after you get back from a hardship tour unless you waive that (and only you can chose to do that) Now, understand that if you pick a particular assignment (like Ft. Campbell) then you may very well have just signed your waiver. Second, bring your wife over to Korea for a bit...stay a couple of nights in the dragon lodge with her and enjoy Soul together...if you can. I DO NOT recommend turning to alcohol to ease the pain...its a slippery slope over there.
As everyone mentioned, feel free to rant on here...more than a few of us have had bad days. My wife and I started in Korea, home for 6 months, iraq for a year, home for a year, 'stan for 15 months, home, move, home...and so on. We have had some very hard times but you guys will find the groove.
Keep working on the warrant packet!

 

[sixpack577]

That really sucks. No way your wife can come to you, for a an extended visit or to live?
People who ask for prayers get them, people that are prayed for get results...even when we don't like the results.
Jesus said "Where two or more are in my name, there I am also" and "Anything you ask from the Father in my Holy name, believing you receive it, you shall have."
We ask GOD to strengthen your faith and help you and your wife through tough times.
Beliving for a positive mental and physical change in your situation!

 

[ogre]

Hey young trooper...first, you aren't deployable right after you get back from a hardship tour unless you waive that (and only you can chose to do that) Now, understand that if you pick a particular assignment (like Ft. Campbell) then you may very well have just signed your waiver. Second, bring your wife over to Korea for a bit...stay a couple of nights in the dragon lodge with her and enjoy Soul together...if you can. I DO NOT recommend turning to alcohol to ease the pain...its a slippery slope over there.
As everyone mentioned, feel free to rant on here...more than a few of us have had bad days. My wife and I started in Korea, home for 6 months, iraq for a year, home for a year, 'stan for 15 months, home, move, home...and so on. We have had some very hard times but you guys will find the groove.
Keep working on the warrant packet!

thanks sir, but my medical situation is such that a warrant packet really isn't an option right now. an opportunity has arisen to roll with 160th for a few years, and i'm going to take that opportunity. i'll learn as much as i can, study, and try to enjoy being home as much as i can. I'll go where the army sends me, and i'll try my best not to ***** about it, whether it's an ideal situation or not.

That really sucks. No way your wife can come to you, for a an extended visit or to live?
People who ask for prayers get them, people that are prayed for get results...even when we don't like the results.
Jesus said "Where two or more are in my name, there I am also" and "Anything you ask from the Father in my Holy name, believing you receive it, you shall have."
We ask GOD to strengthen your faith and help you and your wife through tough times.
Beliving for a positive mental and physical change in your situation!

too much hassle for her to come over here. i'm going to take 22-26 days leave in october, visit my wife, my puppies, and my busa. i'm going to make the most of the time that i have. i'm trying not to be a huge hassle to her, trying to keep the stress level low. we're trying to start a family, etc... it seems like all the negative things are coming to a head all at once. I'm not sure how to handle it.

 

[Blanca BusaLess]

Just think how far we've come.

https://www.hayabusa.org/forum/random-thoughts/130484-official-we-miss-ogre-thread.html

 

[sixpack577]

The harder things get, the closer you're getting to victory. Most mountains are steepest at the top, then when you reach it you can relax and enjoy the veiw at the top...and of some of the other mountains to climb on your journey
Life is about choices, and life is about faith. Faith is not beliveing that GOD can do something, faith is beliveing GOD will do something. If you try to figure out the answers you'll only cause yourself more heartache and stress. It is so hard and yet so simple to let go, and let GOD.
Being away from your wife is obviously what's so bad(wife and I have done the long distance relationship...sucessfully). This is one of those times you'll only appreciate in the future, when it's only easy to remember the good that came of the situation.
We are truly only mature and a real man(or woman) when we can control our emotions, when we allow them to control us, all sorts of bad comes from it. I also say that respectfully with good intentions, as we all fall down and get knocked down by life.
We need to vent and recieve support from others.
Break down, let it out, then stand up and be strong! Good days are ahead and you have what few of us are so fortunate to have, our health and the love of a good woman! Have faith, you are in many people's prayers(real prayers too, not lip service).
All our walks in life are unique, no matter how many miles we have or haven't walked along in someone else's shoes. With that said, I promise you it does get better, even though it doesn't seem like it now.

 

[DaCol.]

All I can say (after 30 years in the Army, 5 years in Africa with the UN with one 30 day leave per year) you have to have a VERY UNDERSTANDING WIFE. AND it's something YOU want to do (for me, that's just what I wanted to do and nothing else). It's not a life for everyone (Combat Arms anyway). I think my wife figured out that in the 30 years of service, we were together about 10 years. So, all I can say is, just look forward to your ETS and make plans on what you want to do after the service. If that's what you want to do.

 

[04Duramax]

Trust me man, there are alot of us on here that feel your pain. My first marriage ended due to my repeated deployments and moves.. but turning to drinking isn't the right choice man. Kill the gym if anything it was the best thing I ever did. As mentioned before they can't hit you up for a deployment after taking on a remote for about a year unless you waiver that so that really shouldn't be a worry at the moment. Just do what you can to keep going on and make sure that you keep in good contact with your wife it makes a huge difference. Good luck to you man and I'm sure all will work out for the best.