I can't stand the thought of paying dues to be told what I can or cannot do, what I can wear and where I can wear it. What events I have to attend, etc.
Yeah its not for everyone,
Not to share to much club business but my dues pay for our club house aka "our man" cave lol where the bros come together to have a drink or hang out after riding or just to get out the house, members also can schedule it as a multiple purpose room for other things like baby showers, birthday parties, bachelor parties etc.. at no additional cost, it also pays for the food we buy from the commissary to throw on the grill and watch the games, dues pay for hotel rooms and gas for members when making mandatory runs, or taking care of some of the expense when members from other chapters come to visit.
Dues go to the emergency fund to get fast money to bros that go down, the club also buys groceries delivers them and takes care of other little things to give the family a helping hand, the dues go to things like towing a bike if needed but most of the time there is someone with a trailer that will come pick it up at no cost, and if there is a need out of town a call can be made and a club in the area will lend a trailer or pull it to the next area where another club will take it if we don't have a chapter there, this is done all the way to our final destination where we have time to wrench on it.
As far as having a structure about what to wear and where to wear it, most people in clubs I know are prior Military and have no problem with being told how to wear your uniform. Depending on the type of club you can go anywhere you want, some places don't allow MC's but we don't patronize them anyone so doesn't matter, if your on the OMC or 1% side of the tracks or happen to be one of these groups that dress up as bikers on the weekend with the bootleg SOA colors claiming States, and wearing diamonds, then yeah might want to proceed with caution.
Showing up at an event is simply showing love and respect to another club, if you live in an area where there are a lot of clubs you have to have mandatory events you attend, for instance we have a few clubs in the area that have been around 30 - 40 years, you pay respect to those clubs that have been doing it for decades. One of these days I'm going to ride up to NY just to pay my respects to one of the oldest clubs in America Yonkers MC est 1903.