All kids are differant.
I have three boys.. and what I have to do to get their attention is all differant.
one all I have to do is look at him, he has been pretty much that way since he was 6.
One. I have had to man handle often. he is 12. I have tried everything from talking, reasoning, grounding, spankings, everything he adapts to, the only thing that gets his attention is if I jack him up like a father bear would do to his cub..
Have never done anything out of anger, but I do get his attention. I have told all the boys since they were old enough to understand, I am their dad, it is my job to raise them, not anyone elses..
And my youngets one... jury still out on him, he is kind of in between the middle and the oldest.
And exmpale of my 12 year old, he came home from school once when he was I think 9, he said "Dad, you cant spank me anymore" and I said "why?" he said "because I will call child protective services" (learned it in school dontchat know)
I said.. hmmmm.. interesting.. now get upstairs.. and he looked at me with this scared look and he said.. "uhh for what" I said to get your spanking for threatening me.. you dont EVER threaten me.
So I took him upstais and gave him one swat.. never heard that crap again.
As I said.. EVERY child is differant, our job as parents is to determine what the best method is that will get their attention. some kids never need a spanking, some need one until they are in their teens. I think most however fall in between..
Oh.. and since my boys started taking martial arts since they were 5, and since I was an instructor, I have told them if they get too old to spank, that we will put sparring gear on and they will have a sparring accident..
I have three boys.. and what I have to do to get their attention is all differant.
one all I have to do is look at him, he has been pretty much that way since he was 6.
One. I have had to man handle often. he is 12. I have tried everything from talking, reasoning, grounding, spankings, everything he adapts to, the only thing that gets his attention is if I jack him up like a father bear would do to his cub..
Have never done anything out of anger, but I do get his attention. I have told all the boys since they were old enough to understand, I am their dad, it is my job to raise them, not anyone elses..
And my youngets one... jury still out on him, he is kind of in between the middle and the oldest.
And exmpale of my 12 year old, he came home from school once when he was I think 9, he said "Dad, you cant spank me anymore" and I said "why?" he said "because I will call child protective services" (learned it in school dontchat know)
I said.. hmmmm.. interesting.. now get upstairs.. and he looked at me with this scared look and he said.. "uhh for what" I said to get your spanking for threatening me.. you dont EVER threaten me.
So I took him upstais and gave him one swat.. never heard that crap again.
As I said.. EVERY child is differant, our job as parents is to determine what the best method is that will get their attention. some kids never need a spanking, some need one until they are in their teens. I think most however fall in between..
Oh.. and since my boys started taking martial arts since they were 5, and since I was an instructor, I have told them if they get too old to spank, that we will put sparring gear on and they will have a sparring accident..