Hope it all turns around for you soon, every cloud has a silver lining, hang in there it's coming. Remember to bend but don't break. The strongest tree in the forest is the one that bends.
Sorry i ain't been around much lately..
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Bill, Man I missed seeing ya at the bash. I'm really sorry about what's going right now. The daughter thing....you saw that coming right? 
The most important thing right now is to do anything to give her the time for school. Any degree she could support herself with, not some english history of underwater basket weaving pie-in-the-sky crap degree.
Kind of hard to break away from macho-man or the parents without "paper on da wall". Try and have her plan out where she wants to be in 5 and 10 years. Then have HER list what she THINKS it will require to accomplish. Do the whole timeline thing with her (including the baby). Try to get her to come up with the idea that she "doesn't need pizza boy" for herself!
Congrats on the detox, what's that they say?,...."rehab's for quitters"....ahh nevermind. J/K
Chill8ter,
Chris
The most important thing right now is to do anything to give her the time for school. Any degree she could support herself with, not some english history of underwater basket weaving pie-in-the-sky crap degree.
Kind of hard to break away from macho-man or the parents without "paper on da wall". Try and have her plan out where she wants to be in 5 and 10 years. Then have HER list what she THINKS it will require to accomplish. Do the whole timeline thing with her (including the baby). Try to get her to come up with the idea that she "doesn't need pizza boy" for herself!
Congrats on the detox, what's that they say?,...."rehab's for quitters"....ahh nevermind. J/K
Chill8ter,
Chris
I agree with this assessment. When I read that the wife covered for your daughter behind your back....that is bad. Seems you need to straighten that out....top priority.
Regarding the pain medication: I hope you have the strength to overcome that crutch. My wife and I have custody of three granddaughters due to their parents addictions to pain medication. It started out as therapy after a serious automobile crash my daughter was in. I truly wish the best for you!
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BTW, what's the matter with the titan? (as in what do I have to look forward too?)
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wow your going through some trials... It'll get better
(((BIG hug))) Sorry for all the problems you have been going through lately. Just keep being a Dad and a husband and they will come around soon enough. On the bright side, you are going to be a grandparent!!! Congratulations. Babies are truely a blessing. Remember it isn't about YOUR timing, but GOD'S timing. 
Oh and "pizza boy" will one day become a man, sounds like you could be his mentor. 
Oh and "pizza boy" will one day become a man, sounds like you could be his mentor. 
1st off...thanks everybody...sometimes it feels like i'm cracking up or sumthin..tough living in a house full of folks who hate yer guts..folks you spent yje last 21 years of your life bust'in azz to provide for..hurts bad..especially when the reality of it all hits as the pain meds wear off...seems to make cleaning up that much tougher..life on lifes terms but life around here is ugly as sin..can't believe how badly my good nature has been taken advantage of and mistaken for weakness by the ones i loved all these years turned heartless..sux...but i keep trying to tell myself i'm working hard for a better tomorrow but so much damage has been done?...a better tomorrow seems like a pipe dream at times..hate myself for letting it all get this far gone..but had no support...mom was more interested in being a friend than a parent..coupled along with a steady flow of negitive comments aimed at dad all these years by a peanut gallery of grandfolks who thought they knew more about the inner sanctum of my own family than me..it didn't help..and now it seems beyond help..sorry to unload like this but i got nobody to talk to...literally...and the whole deal is driving me crazy as the pains of the past come rushing into play..hope ya'll understand and sorry for cry-babying but...i got no one.
l8r, bill.
l8r, bill.
I'm here buddy , only 45 mins away !
Say the word I'll help in any way possible .
Can't say much for most of your probs but as others have said soon you will be Grandad and you can laugh at all the headaches and dirty diapers your daughter will have to deal with .
You can load the lil sucker up with hi dose sugarized candy and send him home
Spoil the crap outta your Grandkid and let her deal with it .
That can be your revenge . What my mom does .
Just brought Adam home about thirty mins ago with a mouthful of gum and candy .
Now he's fully charged , I'm chasing him around house and he ain't tired nor does he want to go to sleep . Literally right now , 21mins past bedtime he's energizer bunny.
Thanks mom !
Lastly keep giving and don't stop .
Be true to yourself and how you are .
Your reward will be in Heaven for having passed all his tests.
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Bill, Your situation sounds like what mine would have been if I had stayed with my ex. Hope you find your way through this mess. You can only "live your life" and let the others live theirs, no matter how distasteful. One day wife and kids will understand what you were about and maybe "get it". My ex never did. Feel your pain man. Get with some good peeps and try to work through this. Best wishes. Drew
I'm here buddy , only 45 mins away !
Say the word I'll help in any way possible .
Can't say much for most of your probs but as others have said soon you will be Grandad and you can laugh at all the headaches and dirty diapers your daughter will have to deal with .
You can load the lil sucker up with hi dose sugarized candy and send him home
Spoil the crap outta your Grandkid and let her deal with it .
That can be your revenge . What my mom does .
Just brought Adam home about thirty mins ago with a mouthful of gum and candy .
Now he's fully charged , I'm chasing him around house and he ain't tired nor does he want to go to sleep . Literally right now , 21mins past bedtime he's energizer bunny.
Thanks mom !
Lastly keep giving and don't stop .
Be true to yourself and how you are .
Your reward will be in Heaven for having passed all his tests.
Thanks Saiid...and to be honest?..i got the "text version" of this very message about 9:30pm last night...came through as 6 individual tm's..and?..was so emotionally drained/tired/exhausted i hadta muster up some extra energy just to open and read them all and was just to zapped out to reply..i hope you accept my most profuse apology for not responding and want you to know that your deep thoughts and understanding of others and your willingness to help anyone you know who may be in need has not gone un-noticed..and deeply appreciated...you sir truely are "Your Brothers Keeper"...a true unsung hero of humanity...restoring my faith in such as i lose faith in humanity one day at a time. LOL!....
see...i am cracking up...^&$#!!!...
stop the world!!!
cause it's moving waaaay too fast..
hows anything good!!!
EVER GONNA LAST!!!
man is moving..
at the speed of liiiiight...
HEAD LONG TOO THE BEAST!!!
THAT HIDES IN THE DARK OF NIGHT!!!!
AND IT'S SO LONELY HERE!
IN THE MINNNDOF A CRAZY MAAAAAHHHHNNNN!!!!!!!!!
(guitar solo)
one verse to a song (lyrics & music) i've recently written...entitled..
"crazy man"
By William B. Jinks
Thanks again & l8r, bill.
your straight up drew...you have a 6th sense..of course the captain obvious 1st (5) being taste, hearing, sight, smell & touch but your 6th Sense is..."common"...a sense that unfortunately these days seems to escape most of the lemmings out there..and resfreshing to hear the depth of your wisdom..and in hindsight?..i myself would advise that the 1st time you go to lay hands on your wife and she tells you "No...Not 2Nite Dear"...?...and then doesn't make it up to you the following evening?...and i don't mean "catch-up"...i mean "MAKE IT UP" too you?...
run...don't look back...just..."run".
and be thankful that you just narrowly escaped decades of mental/emotional torture ending off with a shattered heart and life..by the skin of your teeth..and unfornately?....
that's the depth of my personal wisdom..but thanks for your support dude...maybe someday we'll ride together...someday soon hopefully...and sumpin tells me..the sooner the better...cause i'm wasting precious days of my life every day i spend here at my own home..which is why i've felt for the past decade that i have already died and gone too he11..i feel like the huge black dude (who is a fantastic actor) in "The Green Mile"..where everyday the pain i see inflicted on others is like shards of glass grinding in my head..which is why it would be almost a relief to me to walk...the green mile.
l8r, bill.
All good my friend just dont hesitate to let me know should you need anything !
it's mothers day today...i gotta cook beef brisquet and got a honey do list of maint./cleaning around the house...you know what a holiday is with no presents?...
fathers day.
see?...i am cracking up.
folks wrote all sorts of songs and ballads honoring the love of their mothers..and whad daddy get?
"Papa Was A Roll'in Stone"
go figure. :down:
fathers day.
see?...i am cracking up.
folks wrote all sorts of songs and ballads honoring the love of their mothers..and whad daddy get?
"Papa Was A Roll'in Stone"
go figure. :down:
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