if u don't mind me askin…. u said u turned it down.... what were the circumstances? and age?
I was married at 19. She was 24. I was also military. Traveled a lot. I was sent to pick up a new Photographic analyst that was incoming to our unit. I was maybe 21 by then. What came off that plane was one of the most beautiful women I had ever seen. Fresh out of 10 months of tech school stateside. It was about an hourish back to the base. After waiting on her luggage.
Before we got off the base, she made it clear she was raging horny and needed to get her hands on a partner soon. I said as nicely as I could, that I'm sure she'd find a willing male to accommodate her in about 10 minutes. Her response was, Well its been 20 already and you ain't acting very interested. I could have had a very quick and hot encounter that I would have never gotten caught in. I told her that I had a wife waiting for me and I doubt she'd want to meet you...in sort of a light hearted comedic way to keep the mood light.
I said I have no intention of disappointing anyone but her (the new recruit) and apologized that it wasn't going to be me. I said you won't need more than an hour once you get to base quarters.
She arrived. Before I got her bags unloaded she had 2 men introducing themselves to her.
I dealt with more than that offer along the way that I could have gotten away with cleanly. But in my heart it wasn't right, in my head I knew if the situation was reversed I wouldn't want my partner to act on these either. I think if I would have, my sense of guilt would have gotten the best of me. I can count probably 6 times where this happened along the way.
In one instance a woman who I knew was clearly married, hit on me at a hotel we were both in. I knew she was married because she was talking to her husband on the phone before she started hitting on me. Look for all I know they may have had some sort of agreement between them that it was OK. None of my business. But she was pretty upfront about it when she came right out and said, hurry up and finish that drink so we can go upstairs. After we had been having sort of idle chat. Nothing overt but some open minded discussions. She just came right out with it. Initially I said is there a lounge upstairs I don't know about? Thinking she just wanted to take the chat to a different lounge. She said the only one she knew of was in her room. I said Thanks but no thanks. She was like that's too bad because I REALLY enjoy sex, you're loss. And she left.
I saw her the next morning as we were both checking out. She never even looked over at me then.
I was I think 30ish for that one. I'd guess she was about the same.
