It sounds like you're trying too hard.
You can still be a good man...but you need to be a bit of an a**hole too, lol, really.
Show a little intrest, then back off and let them see you look elsewhere.
Don't jump at anything, and don't be readily available.
And, the right one will show up when you're not looking.
I was married for over 14 years, with her for 19, have a 13 year old daughter, and have been divorced for around 3 years.
We weren't cheating, but just grew apart, and she eventually wanted out.
Our daughter is priority, and the ex and I get along well for her now.
Life settled, and things are ok, most importantly our daughter.
We sold our house, and each bought our own. We split on good terms, no child support, 50/50, and our daughter comes and goes as she pleases.
I pick her up and take her to school every day, even though her mom is a teacher there, and she can ride with her.
We live about 10 miles apart.
I thank God that it all worked out well.
After about 3 months in my new house, and I was settled, it dawned on me...I can date women again, lol.
I had zero intrest in Any relationship with a woman at that point, but, even though the ex and I were long over at that point, it just felt to me that if I went on a date with a woman, that would officially put my ex behind me, and I would feel single and officially done.
My plan was a date, a steak, a conversation, nice to meet you, and see you later.
Well, a nice woman said Hi, we talked, she gave me her number, we texted the next day, and I asked her to dinner.
She said sure. We met, and my plan was as said...only that plan didn't pan out, as we decided to go out again...and again.
Next thing I know, over 2 years passed...we got married about 3 months ago, lol.
She is the best woman that I ever met.
I still find the whole situation kind of funny too, as I wasn't going to get involved with another one of these strange creatures, lol
It just happened.
She was married for 26 years, of a mostly bad relationship, and we could relate on alot of things
So again, live your life, don't put too much effort into anything beyond your control, and when you least expect it, Mrs.Right will show up.
You can still be a good man...but you need to be a bit of an a**hole too, lol, really.
Show a little intrest, then back off and let them see you look elsewhere.
Don't jump at anything, and don't be readily available.
And, the right one will show up when you're not looking.
I was married for over 14 years, with her for 19, have a 13 year old daughter, and have been divorced for around 3 years.
We weren't cheating, but just grew apart, and she eventually wanted out.
Our daughter is priority, and the ex and I get along well for her now.
Life settled, and things are ok, most importantly our daughter.
We sold our house, and each bought our own. We split on good terms, no child support, 50/50, and our daughter comes and goes as she pleases.
I pick her up and take her to school every day, even though her mom is a teacher there, and she can ride with her.
We live about 10 miles apart.
I thank God that it all worked out well.
After about 3 months in my new house, and I was settled, it dawned on me...I can date women again, lol.
I had zero intrest in Any relationship with a woman at that point, but, even though the ex and I were long over at that point, it just felt to me that if I went on a date with a woman, that would officially put my ex behind me, and I would feel single and officially done.
My plan was a date, a steak, a conversation, nice to meet you, and see you later.
Well, a nice woman said Hi, we talked, she gave me her number, we texted the next day, and I asked her to dinner.
She said sure. We met, and my plan was as said...only that plan didn't pan out, as we decided to go out again...and again.
Next thing I know, over 2 years passed...we got married about 3 months ago, lol.
She is the best woman that I ever met.
I still find the whole situation kind of funny too, as I wasn't going to get involved with another one of these strange creatures, lol
It just happened.
She was married for 26 years, of a mostly bad relationship, and we could relate on alot of things
So again, live your life, don't put too much effort into anything beyond your control, and when you least expect it, Mrs.Right will show up.
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