Fug all that nonsensical softy crud...
Here is what you do...
Invite her over and cook her a meal.. Any meal, because she will appreciate your efforts... If you know women the tend to like lighter fare and white meat (shut-up don't even say it) Try chicken breasts with some sort of pasta. Just do something easy..
Cube up some chicken and simmer it in a frying pan while she is watching. Then get some pasta (multi colored tagliatelle) and boil it till its "al dente" with a couple of chicken boullion cubes allowing the water to reduce but do not make it salty. Make it so that you might need a little salt. Grab some sour cream and dump some into the pasta for that creamy saucy aspect then add some dry parsley to the creamy pasta... As you are boiling the pasta prep and boil some carrots but slice them so they end up somewhat rectangular, add to this by simmering zucchini in butter but not too long, you want the veggies crisp but cooked. Throw together salad or just get a bagged one... Italian dressing only.
Ask the ABC guy to give you a nice Riesling (white) wine or a Pinot Grigio...
She will offer to help you cook but just ask her to grab a couple of glasses out of the cupboard over the sink. Be prepared to act, as she heads to the cupboard, at the right moment walk up behind her and standing in contact with her, place your hands on her hips. Quietly, talk into her left ear saying that you need this and let your warm (well hygiened) breath blow her loose strands of hair so that it tickles her cheek and neck a bit. She will either turn her head towards you and receive your GENTLE non-aggressive kiss on her soft flushed warm lips OR she will spin around and ask "WHAT ARE YOU DOING"? This will occur before you get a word out. I can almost guarantee it will be the first scenario. You have to take the lead. You cannot second guess yourself, you must act on impulse because it is what she wants you to do if she will have you.
If you get her in the door, the you are halfway there... The rest is just looking into her eyes and seeing the inviting look beckon you, then MY FRIEND YOU ARE GOLDEN.
Buy me a beer sometime...