Women

[Wag]

+1 on not pushing it. Just talk about how much fun you always have, invite the riding buddies over for BBQ and let the conversations roll.

Everyone should be on notice that talking about the fun is all good but NO pressuring the wiff about it.

Good luck, man. There are worse things than having your wife not be interested in riding. What would be a real beyotch would be if you talked her into it and some cager cracked into you and injured her. Again, don't push it. It has to be her call.

Count your lucky stars that at least she doesn't object.

--Wag--

 

[Revlis]

Celebrate Bro... Seriously. She doesn't want ANY part of it? Amen, gives you something to do on your own. OR If she doesn't mind throw some little 20 something hottie on the back, or in the passenger seat and call it good!

It's a Win-Win. I love my wife very much but I love the fact that she has her things to do and I have mine...

The wife doesn't mind being on the back, but she's not a huge fan either so putting someone back there that's excited about going for a long ride is easy and everyone is happy.

 

[Busa Jules]

revlis... don't make me

you!! Why would a peson be happy that the person he/she married doesn't want to have anything to do with them?

I know I've heard the "It's MY time away from HER".. then why did you marry her if you didn't want to spend time together?

Darrell and I are lucky enough to have LOTS in common.. cars, trucks, motorcycles.. and we would rather do things with EACH OTHER than with any one else.

okay...

Good luck man... you can introduce her to me and I can try to work some magic... KIDS seem to play a part in female riding too.

 

[SHADiGUY1]

wow i see a boxing match coming soon lol

 

[JR'S BUSA]

revlis... don't make me  

you!! Why would a peson be happy that the person he/she married doesn't want to have anything to do with them?

I know I've heard the "It's MY time away from HER".. then why did you marry her if you didn't want to spend time together?

Darrell and I are lucky enough to have LOTS in common.. cars, trucks, motorcycles.. and we would rather do things with EACH OTHER than with any one else.

okay...  

 
Good luck man... you can introduce her to me and I can try to work some magic... KIDS seem to play a part in female riding too.

Well .... I do have 2 kids, both girls. Courtnie turns 6 this month and Adrianna will be 2 at the beginning of August.

 

[LCB]

Riding is a very personal thing for me, it's my time. I admit it was cool when I came home and told my spouse I bought a bike and was going to learn how to ride (after putting it off for a decade or two) he was thrilled and wanted to learn too. We ride together as often as possible but since we're on 2 bikes, I still get to be by myself. If the kids want to ride with us, we can each take one and off we go.

Some people - men and women - never get it and there's a good chance they never will, that's just the way they're wired. Since she doesn't have any problem with you riding, you're in better shape than some of the guys on the board so that's a good start. She may show some interest as time goes by or if she sees more and more women riding, who knows. In the mean time, don't push the issue, try to include her and keep offering so she knows you want her to be involved.

If the day ever comes where she wants to learn, have her take the MSF novice course. I know a bunch of guys teach their SO's how to ride but that can be intimidating... she's more worried about how she's doing in your eyes instead of focusing on learning the skills of riding, etc. The MSF instructors are trained to teach, they do an excellent job, she won't pick up your bad habits (admit it, we all have a few) and if she passes the course, she gets the Moto endorsement in most states.

Good luck!

 

[Busa Jules]

revlis... don't make me  

you!! Why would a peson be happy that the person he/she married doesn't want to have anything to do with them?

I know I've heard the "It's MY time away from HER".. then why did you marry her if you didn't want to spend time together?

Darrell and I are lucky enough to have LOTS in common.. cars, trucks, motorcycles.. and we would rather do things with EACH OTHER than with any one else.

okay...  

 
Good luck man... you can introduce her to me and I can try to work some magic... KIDS seem to play a part in female riding too.

Well .... I do have 2 kids, both girls. Courtnie turns 6 this month and Adrianna will be 2 at the beginning of August.

hmm.. young kids too.. personally I don't have kids.. but for some reason.. SOME women feel they can never do anything fun after they have children....

You know your wife better than us... is she one of those "I could never ride a bike because what would happen to the children if something happened to me?" types? That is kind of a pessimistic, worse case scenario mentality that PERSONALLY I think some women use as an EXCUSE to not try something FUN/ Risky/ out of their comfort zone.

 

[Dan]

If the day ever comes where she wants to learn, have her take the MSF novice course.  

+100000000000

When Diana said she wanted to learn to ride, the first thing I did was find a class.  It was the best money I'd spent in a  long time.  She got to learn from people that know how to teach (and the right way to do things) and there was now pressure or intimidation.

Diana is my love and my best friend.  We both work full time jobs, have 3 kids and our time together is precious.  She has always support my riding but had no interest in her own bike until a couple of years ago (been married almost 18 years).  Give it time, she may come around but forcing the issue will just make it worse.

 

[LadyHawk]

I think some people either like risks/adrenelin/living on the edge, or they don't. She may be one that doesn't.

I would definately take her to the fall bash... hang out with couples that ride together (2up or seperately)..sometimes the biker talk is contagious.

But, like everyone else said, don't pressure her. Let her come to the realization that she WANTS to ride. Let her know how much you would enjoy it if she would ride with you, and that there is always a standing invitation for her to join you. Knowing that someone you love wants you to join them in their hobby, can sit in the back of the brain and "fester". I hope she at least tries it just once.

And if she does, DO NOT do anything to scare her, and make it a short ride. Always check with her at stop lights and ask how she is doing.

Good luck!

 

[HRHDi]

If the day ever comes where she wants to learn, have her take the MSF novice course.  

+100000000000

When Diana said she wanted to learn to ride, the first thing I did was find a class.  It was the best money I'd spent in a  long time.  She got to learn from people that know how to teach (and the right way to do things) and there was now pressure or intimidation.

Diana is my love and my best friend.  We both work full time jobs, have 3 kids and our time together is precious.  She has always support my riding but had no interest in her own bike until a couple of years ago (been married almost 18 years).  Give it time, she may come around but forcing the issue will just make it worse.

The course is essential.  Many women get very intimidated in front of their husband/SO around anything mechanical.  There's so much less pressure in a class like this.  Besides there are usually a couple women in each of the classes which helps.

Dan and I just got back from a quick ride - my first one on my bike all year.  It was the most comfortable one I've been on for a long time (long story to be told later regarding my apprehension on my one bike).  I really think this ride was better is because I met so many other women riders at the Bash.  Even now, it can be difficult for many women to realize they can do things that have been historically a male dominated sport/activity/etc.

Dan and I do as much together as possible.  This is just one more thing that we can do together.