Faithful husbands/ faithful relationships

[GAmedic]

We all have our own experiences, some of us can or cannot relate to others based on those experiences.
What You have been through has made You the man You are today. Strengthening your character so that You can handle what is to come.
God never gives us more than we can handle.
Sounds like your girl had Need of a stronger than average man. Sounds like God sent her who she needed.
That He had just the right guy in mind, that He knew that You could handle it, and give her what she needed, and in turn, her be there for you.
If we all only knew the burdens that others carried, maybe then we'd be more considerate of how we treated them, and we'd all be quick to overlook an offense.
Life is a gift, and the gift is a test, the test is what are you going to do with the gift?
We All make mistakes, but God loves us all, regardless.

As for cheating, I have been married for over 11 years, with her almost 16, and known her a few years longer than that.
Many times I could strangle her(as I'm perfect and do nothing wrong, lol), but we have always been faithful to one another.
Of course there has been temptation, but it's not worth the price.
And more importantly than us, we have a daughter together. If Daddy cheats on Mommy, what message does that send?
Only one; that if Daddy does it, so will every other guy, and she'll accept that, and let guys use her all her life(notice I say guys, not men, it takes alot to be a real man).
I say none of this from some phony high place either, as I have made my share of mistakes in life.
Only that the biggest problem this world has, is the destruction of the family.
It takes away trust and hope, especially from a child.
We can All do better.

Well said Six. Well said.

Nobody is useless in this world who lightens the burden of another.

 

[RedBull]

Well said Six.

Well said.

Nobody is useless in this world
who lightens the burden of another .


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[jellyrug]

Well as animals males have a programmed response to females. It's just a question of whether or not you are just an animal.

LOL

I learnt a lot from you today Arch. Humans "admire" and animals "lust".

On a more serious note about this subject, for me it is about the next generation. Once you have kids, it is important to be the best role model possible, which includes for better or for worse one has to make the relationship work.

I did five years in the Middle East and employed quite a few folks from India. I will never forget the discussion I had with my Hindi financial controller. The way they do things is the parents select the wife, introduces her to their son and the marriage takes place. Divorce is unheard of and they make things work. When I questioned that, the answer was that they are a nation of compromise.

 

[jellyrug]

Back to Hayabusas

 

[ali123]

So you will think cheating on her is OK then. If she is the hottest thing ever to you, then why would you need more eggs in your basket?

im not saying that I will cheat on her.... but u ask me why I NEED more eggs in the basket? JUST IN CASE she cheats on me...………… we would be even... jk

 

[fallenarch]

LOL

I learnt a lot from you today Arch. Humans "admire" and animals "lust".

On a more serious note about this subject, for me it is about the next generation. Once you have kids, it is important to be the best role model possible, which includes for better or for worse one has to make the relationship work.

I did five years in the Middle East and employed quite a few folks from India. I will never forget the discussion I had with my Hindi financial controller. The way they do things is the parents select the wife, introduces her to their son and the marriage takes place. Divorce is unheard of and they make things work. When I questioned that, the answer was that they are a nation of compromise.

Are you saying that is good or bad?

 

[ali123]

Are you saying that is good or bad?

cultural relativism arch.... gotta be liberal and accept allllll things.... forced marriage and sex with someone one may find repulsive is a COMPROMISE... we in america are NO BETTER just because we choose our own wives.... cant say that.... its just a compromise...… BUT LETS NOT JUDGE ONE ANOTHER ON THIS THREAD/ or other cultures.... I wanna hear more stories and if we start judging people... others will be reluctant to post.

 

[fallenarch]

I didn't judge, I just asked if Jelly was saying forcing a relationship on one partner was better than the problems we have when both partners enter into the relationship of their own. BTW, forcing one party into a decision is not compromise.

 

[ali123]

I didn't judge, I just asked if Jelly was saying forcing a relationship on one partner was better than the problems we have when both partners enter into the relationship of their own. BTW, forcing one party into a decision is not compromise.

I know.... I was being facetious... I guess over the internet my TONE cant be heard.

 

[GAmedic]

I hate hearing people tell me my ex wife and I need to work it out because we have kids. Our current situation works infinitely better post relationship than it did while we were together.

My above comment goes hand in hand with forcing things.

 

[fallenarch]

I know.... I was being facetious... I guess over the internet my TONE cant be heard.

Ali that jab was at Jelly not you.....

 

[RedBull]

Ali that jab
was at Jelly
not you . . .

 

[Mr Brown]

I hate hearing people tell me my ex wife and I need to work it out because we have kids. Our current situation works infinitely better post relationship than it did while we were together.

My above comment goes hand in hand with forcing things.

In my experience, working it out sometimes means going separate directions.....

 

[Mr Brown]

cultural relativism arch.... gotta be liberal and accept allllll things....

That's not what cultural relativism is......

 

[jellyrug]

Are you saying that is good or bad?

Neither, who am I to judge.
The way it works Arch, is once you get married the passion is gone, because now you get in bed with a relative. Just jokin, we much the same on that subject. See, I obeyed your request to only post when we have the same opinion.

 

[fallenarch]

I think we should change this to the "JellyButt". You use it more than anyone else! Seriously I respect your opinions and you are truly a thinking man so points are always interesting.

 

[ali123]

That's not what cultural relativism is......

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Cultural_relativism

 

[ali123]

ANYONE BEEN CAUGHT IN THE ACT?

 

[fallenarch]

I have! I was stealing a second piece of cheese cake one night. Wife doesn't trust me anymore.

What? What were you talking about?

 

[TallTom]

ANYONE BEEN CAUGHT IN THE ACT?

Can't get caught in what wasn't happening.

It does however remind me of my ex that was cheating. She always tried to make me out to be cheating. Working late, I must be cheating. A ride with my guys, I must be cheating. Don't answer my phone when she calls, I must be cheating. As it turned out she was the one cheating. I learned what the word projection meant.

The one that spends all their time discussing cheating...........