Good read! I'm fairly new to the Busa myself (about 6 months). Switching from a Wing to a Busa is a pretty radical change. I owned a Yam FJR1300 before I purchased my Busa (still have both), so my jump wasn't quite as radical.
If your throttle cable slop isn't too bad (within specs), I suggest not adjusting it - at least not right away. As you've already found out throttle management is critical on the Busa. With a little slop in the throttle cable you won't have to worry about accidently "bumping" the throttle and jetting forward. I bit of cable slop makes for a nice "oops!" cushion!
Once you feel more comfortable you might want to tighten my up a bit.
As for the anti-wave thing. I'm not sure about that myself. I've had several cruisers pass by and ignore me totally, although sport bikers wave regularly. A get a lot more waves when I'm on my FJR, but to be honest, I could care less either way. When I get ignored I figure the passing rider; a) could care less about sport bikes, b) they're in awe of the Busa, or maybe jealous? Who knows. But bikers (in general) are normally proud of their ride, whatever it is. Perhaps they're thinking (stupid as it might seem) the Busa has nothing on their HD or VTX.
As for riding style, I'm 53 and at first (and especially compared to my FJR) the Busa's riding position was a tad uncomfortable on my wrists. I added Helibars, which helped a bit, but more importantly, I learned to grab the tank with my knees/legs and supported my upper body with my back. I found the weight came off my wrists and it felt easier to control the bike in fast turns as well. Plus it's a great work out too!
Congrats on your new Busa. Enjoy, but respect it or it'll damn sure bite ya!