(Tree @ Jun. 07 2007,13:17) OK, I'm going to play the part of A#1. As I was A#1 for many years. Since being a nice guy was getting me in a world of hurt every time, I truned over the leaf. One thing I can say with fair certantity, people I.E.
men and women, somewhere in the back of their mind, like being treated like $hit. When I was a nice guy, the girls treated me like crap. When I was A#1, I treated them like crap and they kept coming back for more. I was dating 7 girls at the same time. They all knew about each other, and none were dating any one else. I had a girl for every day of the week. They all kissed my a$$, every time.
Fast forward a few years. Some where I got tired of dating dumb a$$es. Managed to get "standards", and would literaly give them "tests" in general conversations. If they didn't have correct or at least intelegent answers, I'd just not talk to them any more.
Now we have been togather for 15 years and married for 10. The first 7 years, I told people, we would not last another year. You just never can tell.
My only advice is this. Don't get attached, espically after 20 years of marrige. Enjoy life on your own for a while. Wrap your willy, and use it on as many women as you can.
Just don't take things too seriously for a couple of years. Take that motorcycle vacation you all ways wanted to. Enjoy being yourself, and not her husband. Try something new, buy a gun, water or snow ski, SCUBA dive, take a trip to China, get a mail order bride, what ever. Just don't worry about hooking up with anyone, other than for a piece, for a while.
Take care,
Steve