I guess it depends who you mingle with. All those good old values are still around. Life is about the choices you make. I seem to still live in your parents’s generation, even though it is 2024.
I must be obsolete...
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I think divorce rates are declining because less people are getting married and are shacking up......nobody is tracking those break ups and I'm certain there are many......many more than yrs ago.
Now if we equate the immigrants from other nations who have very strict religious rules regarding marriage, they don't get divorced no matter how bad it gets in the relationship....they are bound by an invisible Sharia Law which in ingrained into their very being...
Yep, that is amazing. Not only Sharia Law, but in other religions such as Hindi and others, today still, the parents select the bride for the husband and the marriage lasts forever. They are simply peoples of compromise. In some cases it is not even religion, it is culture and values. India, Pakistan comes to mind.
Arranged marriages in many countries, Caucasus, Central Asia, North Africa, South Asia, Southeast Asia, sub-Saharan Africa, and West Asia.
Have to add though, in all those cases, you will not find a "kept husband".
Off subject; Where is Caucasus?
The only thing close I ever saw was an old NY or St.Louis World's Fair of the 20th century flyer.
It had many countries listed, all known and still around today...except for a country called Caucasia(I assume that's where honkys come from, lol), but after alot of digging, found no other references to that anywhere.
Jusr curious, as it seems like it may be the same place??
Caucasus - Ethnic Groups, Languages, Religions
Caucasus - Ethnic Groups, Languages, Religions: The rural population of the Caucasus is unevenly distributed, with the most densely populated part of the region along the Black Sea coast. The Rioni River valley and several smaller valleys in Transcaucasia are intensively cultivated and support...
www.britannica.com
Yes, that and good ol statistical manipulation. I was researching divorce some years ago and the Aus government had massaged the numbers to make the rate look lower than it actually was. It only counted how many individual people had been divorced, not how many times people had been divorced. It sounds trivial but it speaks volumes when people divorce and remarry multiple times. All stats are manipulated now, some of the worst are real estate stats, using the basic mean and median price measures interchangeably to portray higher prices over time.
There was a big story a decade and more back about a Brisbane suburb ( a capital I once lived in) going up like 35% in a single year. Now prices are calculated from sales data only, projecting that across the rest of the housing stock. The suburb was Tennyson and the reason prices rocketed was because a large new development on the river was selling apartments for well over a million. Probably only 2% of the housing stock of that suburb but because nothing else was selling it pushed the stats to the moon. It's been said that there are Lies, Damn Lies and then Statistics.
The think all humans by nature are polygamous.
What keeps one couple together for a lifetime is the combination of a perfect mate selection and the ability to resist temptation.
I agree and it's not a knock on human decency, it's more of an evolution as we figure out what works and what doesn't, like not smoking cigarettes in a closed car with children. I think some of us grew up that way, with parents that absolutely meant no harm. People that love each other but are not sure of being forever monogamous choose a smarter path. For people that want to get married, the percentages remain the same.
And again I will pull this thread back up from years past.....
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Lt "Tex" Schalit --- Caps Uncle D Day 1944 | Random Thoughts
I thought I would post up a story my uncle wrote me several years ago before he died... He was always that uncle that had the wild stories and as long as he lived (into his 80s) he was always flying some kind of plane... I wanted to share this with you all... You might expect that after 50...
Pretty cool......And again I will pull this thread back up from years past.....
Lt "Tex" Schalit --- Caps Uncle D Day 1944 | Random Thoughts
I thought I would post up a story my uncle wrote me several years ago before he died... He was always that uncle that had the wild stories and as long as he lived (into his 80s) he was always flying some kind of plane... I wanted to share this with you all... You might expect that after 50...
I'm a military historian at heart and love to hear stories such as this....sadly the story tellers have either all left us or are on their way....
I've ran into many war veterans over the years who would open up to me because I wore the uniform and it was very interesting to hear them speak.
Now years later, I have my own war stories that I have yet to share.
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Hi. I still find it hard to tell what I went throught even to my girlfriend.
I did at one time as well....5 yrs of therapy has helped me immensely...
I'll bet your VA has allowances for you to do this as well and in my opinion it is well worth it.
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Hi. I did have tharapy for a year it did help some. I find it easier to be with people now. Also it helped to move me out of living in a tent in the woods. Witch I still miss to this day. But I had an other vets houes that could go to that was about 1/2 mile from my camp.
Probably the year wasn't enough...
......and the therapist is important, I had a Phycologist that specialized in military/police therapy.....she knew her stuff.
I went to the evil place known as Walmart yesterday on a wife induced errand.
I was at the self checkout which was monitored by a openly visual gay man...I know this because he and I have spoken before and he referred to having a long term boyfriend.
A couple rough and tumble redneck types were there in the self checkout and had an issue and told him by referring to him as a "fag" and get over here and help them....the guy was obviously more scared than angry judging by the look on his face...
So of course me being me with next to low filters told these guys although they may not agree with a person's lifestyle, they should be respectful of how someone lives it the same as they expect this from others themselves...one guy looked at me for a second without blinking and I half expected to get involved in some sort of fight and mentally prepared myself for which person I'd take out first.......the non blinker turned to the worker, apologized and said he shouldn't have said that to him and apologized to me saying he didn't really mean anything by it but was just so fed up with all the rainbow crap hanging everywhere that he was feeling overwhelmed.
I told him I get it as I'm sick and tired of all the rainbow crap and even voiced my own opinion on the anniversary of D-Day where stores were more concerned about rainbows than the sacrifice made by those who waded ashore against the odds....he said he thought I might be a military or ex military guy by the way I carried myself....actually the guy (and what turned out to be his son) and I had a good talk-a constructive talk.
Through it all the worker was pretty darned glad I was there as he is normally a pretty timid person-even this guy said he was sick of all the rainbow stuff as he and his partner are very private people and keep to themselves and never fly rainbows or the like....
Normally I go to these places as soon as they open then I'm in and out in minutes but once in a while if the wife has a bright idea, I sometimes have to go later where I often run into some interesting human beings.
I was at the self checkout which was monitored by a openly visual gay man...I know this because he and I have spoken before and he referred to having a long term boyfriend.
A couple rough and tumble redneck types were there in the self checkout and had an issue and told him by referring to him as a "fag" and get over here and help them....the guy was obviously more scared than angry judging by the look on his face...
So of course me being me with next to low filters told these guys although they may not agree with a person's lifestyle, they should be respectful of how someone lives it the same as they expect this from others themselves...one guy looked at me for a second without blinking and I half expected to get involved in some sort of fight and mentally prepared myself for which person I'd take out first.......the non blinker turned to the worker, apologized and said he shouldn't have said that to him and apologized to me saying he didn't really mean anything by it but was just so fed up with all the rainbow crap hanging everywhere that he was feeling overwhelmed.
I told him I get it as I'm sick and tired of all the rainbow crap and even voiced my own opinion on the anniversary of D-Day where stores were more concerned about rainbows than the sacrifice made by those who waded ashore against the odds....he said he thought I might be a military or ex military guy by the way I carried myself....actually the guy (and what turned out to be his son) and I had a good talk-a constructive talk.
Through it all the worker was pretty darned glad I was there as he is normally a pretty timid person-even this guy said he was sick of all the rainbow stuff as he and his partner are very private people and keep to themselves and never fly rainbows or the like....
Normally I go to these places as soon as they open then I'm in and out in minutes but once in a while if the wife has a bright idea, I sometimes have to go later where I often run into some interesting human beings.
I see it different as a veteran I suppose.....
I see that the Pride people aren't concerned about D-Day.
Those that forget the past are destined to repeat it...
I use to get to mingle with several of these badass ****** ******''s over the years(in public, their WW2 hats, and just known in the community, and my ex-wife's grandfather was there(my grandfather was too, but not in combat).
To listen to them talk to one another, and let you listen, in the hardware store, grocery store, and Church.
Mostly fun things they recalled, but some bad for reality checks when certain ears may need it.
Incredibly humble, but the behind their back stories from children and grandchidren, and spoken at funerals...are the stacks of Bronze Stars and Purple Hearts that most had.
My ex's grandfather was known to have a Purple Heart and a Bronze Star...another Purple Heart and 4 more Bronze Stars were found after his passing.
None of this was ever spoken, so there are no stories...but this represents the kind of men that we are dealing with.
(No direpect Any of the countless ladies who kept things together at home, or served themselves, they were all equally amazing people in their many forgotten skill sets).
None of these guys care about glory, but were just happy to go handle business and come home, if fortunate enough to do so.
Had they not, we will not debate the difference in history...
I live in what is called a "Purple Heart Community" like Many of the surrounding communities, towns, and small cities are here, as there were so many WW2 veterans from this area, and I'm only a few minutes from Bedford county in Va.
The Bedford Boys, who the movie 'Saving Private Ryan' is about.
Sadly, most of these men have passed on now, or are not in the health to be out regulary, if at all anymore.
They truly are the "Greatest Generation".
I find it hard to accept that there is so little intrest, or even awareness, of so many incredible true stories...by alot of teenagers, with guidance as high as mid 30's, is the average ages that I was always told.
Alot of farm boys handled business.
MURICA!
And ALL of our Allies!
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I had the great fortune to meet and speak to a lot of these veterans including Korean War and Viet Nam veterans......most of them opened up to me as I was a fellow soldier and I loved to sit and listen to them....some of them would ask me about what I went through and were interested in that.
My martial arts Sensei was in Viet Nam for multiple tours as a SeAL, he taught me their CQC which came in handy on more than one occasion.
Sadly these people are quickly dying off and in many cases their stories are left untold.
When my father passed away we found a couple WW1 medals in his collection and were wondering how they came to be in his collection as the names on the medals didn't corelate to anyone in our family.....my aunt told me she thought he was given them by a couple old hermits that he did odd jobs for, they gave him their medals as some sort of payment.....we found their families and returned the medals years ago.
My own medals are locked away and I haven't done anything with them since I retired in 2016.....
