Drinking alcohol that is. Not one of these I drank to much last night saying I quit thing. More like I will never drink alcohol in my life again. I died inside when I came home to an empty house Sat. I can barely be at work right now, the tears keep welling up. She is giving me a another chance that I cannot fail, yet the pain is soo great right now. I didn't realize that my anger that came out when I drank had effected my girlfriend(that I hope to marry someday) of 2 years so greatly. Children aside, she is the most important part of my life and most awesome and beautiful woman that I ever dreamed of being with. Besides quitting alcohol I need to work on anger management but I'm thinking that will be helped greatly by not drinking. Any words of wisdom welcomed. Thanks for listening, er reading. Dan
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support support support.... and keep your eye on the prize...
You really need to want to succeed worse than you want to fail... the stronger desire will win.....
Start a walking routine when you would normally be "drinking" Tough program but your future relies on it so maybe not as tough as you think... (Love can do amazing things you know)
check your PM...
You really need to want to succeed worse than you want to fail... the stronger desire will win.....
Start a walking routine when you would normally be "drinking" Tough program but your future relies on it so maybe not as tough as you think... (Love can do amazing things you know)
check your PM...
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mrninja9
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man here is what i have to say whether you like it or not here is my opinion.
You know that when you drink it makes her mad.. Sometimes it is not easy to defeat everything by yourself. You need to talk to her. Mak sure she is willing to support you throught this. Even go to a counselar or find a locall AA meetring place. Ususally they are free for anyone. I know sounds like a joke but seriously try it. you will be amazed at how it can help. Yes i have been to one for abotu 3 months while i was in the air force.
The older you get the less you will want to drink. It isnt as much fun i barley drink anymore and that came from me going out Every night trying to dround myself with a brown watery substance.
You know freinds can be a great part of recovery. tell them what is going on and your opinions a true freind will stand behind you and help.
The AA meetings sound so bad but ask her if she will go with you to show support. That will let her know your trying. The counselar there can also help to find an anger maneagemnt counselar.. if you need more help there are a million memebrs here that are willing to talk or help you through the situation...
MAnb i am here anytime you want. i know what it is like to go through all of it... I have a grip on mine for once so dont let any onhe put you down for this
You know that when you drink it makes her mad.. Sometimes it is not easy to defeat everything by yourself. You need to talk to her. Mak sure she is willing to support you throught this. Even go to a counselar or find a locall AA meetring place. Ususally they are free for anyone. I know sounds like a joke but seriously try it. you will be amazed at how it can help. Yes i have been to one for abotu 3 months while i was in the air force.
The older you get the less you will want to drink. It isnt as much fun i barley drink anymore and that came from me going out Every night trying to dround myself with a brown watery substance.
You know freinds can be a great part of recovery. tell them what is going on and your opinions a true freind will stand behind you and help.
The AA meetings sound so bad but ask her if she will go with you to show support. That will let her know your trying. The counselar there can also help to find an anger maneagemnt counselar.. if you need more help there are a million memebrs here that are willing to talk or help you through the situation...
MAnb i am here anytime you want. i know what it is like to go through all of it... I have a grip on mine for once so dont let any onhe put you down for this
AA can help you. People say you have to reach 'bottom' first - maybe you just did. Find the strength (and show the GF that you have it) to man-up and do the right thing. May sound hard but it's the ONLY WAY you can get past it.
I'm so glad I'm not afflicted with that problem. My Brother in law is (as was his dad) and it really caused alot of pain for my wife's family. Good luck!
I'm so glad I'm not afflicted with that problem. My Brother in law is (as was his dad) and it really caused alot of pain for my wife's family. Good luck!
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Just stay away from those placed that you can go and you know you will start drinking like Mr. Bogus said check the placed you used to hang out. Is not easy to break w/ a habit. I have heard that if takes 21 days to doing something to make a habit the same way to break it. all you need is to be consistent and don't break your promise and stand strong and you will get r done. Remember you said she is the most important thing in your life so work for that.
mrninja9
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i am also leaning towards racerv's answer...You need to think that you like to drink as long as your not doing anything wrong. maybe it is an excuse for her to find an easy way out... things can escalate very easily but there might be more to the story
please tell us more little bit more open about this.
why wasnt she there
what did you do saturday
yeah you drank where you hanging with other girls
did you not invite her what there also has to be more of a story here
please tell us more little bit more open about this.
why wasnt she there
what did you do saturday
yeah you drank where you hanging with other girls
did you not invite her what there also has to be more of a story here
I have been down this road before, my last wife started coming up with one thing after another that she didn't like AFTER we got married. 1st was daily drinking, then it was my job, then it was computer games, on and on until I got fed up with it and left her. Just something to keep in mind.
I just got thru with a 12 week anger management class, once a week for an hour each time and it was well worth it. It by know means solves the problem but it teaches you how to deal with your anger and how not to take it out on someone else it is well worth it! Also some of my other extra activaties not alcohol, but worse was the main cause and had been for quite a few years but it all happens for a reason and as long as you learn from it and change then it will all work out. I know it was the hardest thing i ever done, it will be a year Feb 1st and it has been the best year ever got my girlfriend back and a couple new bikes in the garage and saving a whole lot more money than i was, and i can also say that the best help was from the man above i promise ya he helped more than any class did. If ya need anybody to talk to or if ya need me to send copies of anger management papers just PM me and i will get back to ya. Hang in there.
Thank you for the support. Maybe this was to personal to post here. I'm sorry if it was. I drank at home, no other girls, not out with the guys. I would drink 5-6 consistly, not sloshed or anything. Then at times something would up and I would escalate it with alcohol induced/enhanced anger. This is serious, I WILL succeed, for failure is not an option. It was not her, it was ME. One example and probably the breaking point for her is how I went off on her when a expensive non refundable gift was bought for me by her and it was the wrong thing. A little upset would have been fine , yet I ranted for 2 days, at Christmas no less. If only I could take it back, but I cant. I will make this right.
This type of change is difficult, but worthwhile. Whatever we can do to help, let us know.
Great advice. Replacing the time you would have normally spent getting drunk with something else, something you can learn to enjoy, is your best bet. Hat's off to you for having this realization before it's too late.
How to find a meeting in the US/Canada/Puerto Rico
Sit down with your girlfriend and really talk to her about your problem. She has to be willing to support you too. But she needs the tools to be able to do it. The above link should help her get started too.
God bless you. I pray that you will continue to be strong and face your demons. And when it seems like you will break, reach out to your friends and fellow AA members. Rely on their strength.
Sit down with your girlfriend and really talk to her about your problem. She has to be willing to support you too. But she needs the tools to be able to do it. The above link should help her get started too.
God bless you. I pray that you will continue to be strong and face your demons. And when it seems like you will break, reach out to your friends and fellow AA members. Rely on their strength.
I don't know you well enough to really offer anything of value beyond suggesting counseling...and the following:
The past does not have to equal the future. We humans have an ability unique in the animal world to choose from numerous actions when events affect us. Many who never become fully functioning adults never develop that ability to stop and choose the appropriate action once a stimulus is presented...they just react like an animal.
A trip to your local library or bookstore to get a copy of Stephen Covey's "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" would probably be another helpful move on your part.
Best wishes with selecting among the myriad choices you'll have as you progress into the future you will create for yourself. Sharing your present challenge with us was a good choice, and shows you are capable of success.
The past does not have to equal the future. We humans have an ability unique in the animal world to choose from numerous actions when events affect us. Many who never become fully functioning adults never develop that ability to stop and choose the appropriate action once a stimulus is presented...they just react like an animal.
A trip to your local library or bookstore to get a copy of Stephen Covey's "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" would probably be another helpful move on your part.
Best wishes with selecting among the myriad choices you'll have as you progress into the future you will create for yourself. Sharing your present challenge with us was a good choice, and shows you are capable of success.
good for you fastman. Alcohol killed my best friend and my step-father.Realize it affects your loved ones and your own health.Substitute something positive in your life and seek a higher power.God Bless
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