BTW, not trying to brag, but wanted to give an example of why I trust my son.
We were driving the other day and he says to me
"dad, when I am 18 or 19 and off to college, if me and some friends want to play beer pong will you be ok with it"
And I had a long talk with him about it, just told him if he was with only a few friends, at a friends house and he wasnt going to be driving and only having a few that I wouldnt have a problem with it, as long as he understood the consequences if something were to happen and as long as he made good decisions.
I then asked him what if I said I had a problem with it, and his response was he wouldnt do it.
I know him, he didnt even have to ask me the question, I would never know if he did anything like that, he knows it and I know it. but him asking my permission tells me he would have respected my wishes.
Another example is how when he got his license, he wasnt allowed to let anyone else in the car who was under 21 for a year (unless it was a sibling) he had friends asking him for rides every day at school to go to lunch, and even though it was hard for him to tell his friends no, he never let anyone ride with him. he asked us a few times if he could and we said no and he didnt. even though all of his other friends who were driving were in the same board but they would take their friends in the car knowing they were not supposed to.
It is his decisions and the way he handles situations as above as to why I trust him so much. and since his mom and I trust him greatly and he knows it, he also knows how much he has to lose if he ever screwed that trust up.
BA BUSA knows my family and knows my boys. I think he would probably attest to how they are.
Awesome wife and three cool sons.. couldnt ask for anything more