Parents....need your input...

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I would have caught up with her and pull a wheelie by her showing my middle finger.
But that's ma acting llike I would 10 years ago.
If I had a child, it would probably be different.

 

[tbonebusa]

Tell her that her bahavior had a horrible influence on your child... that's why he ended beating up her kid during lunch.  

Thanks a lot, TS....I just spit coffee all over my laptop!!

Really, thanks for all the input....I now know I'll still ride him to school...but I'm a little torn on the full gear thing....might be too much hassle for a 2 minute ride. Do not know yet how I feel about him not being in "full gear", I feel for MYSELF that shorts/tshirt/helmet on a 25 mph 8 block ride is okay...but not too sure about him. On the other hand, he can hit 20 mph on his bicycle, I'm sure, and he does that while jumping curbs, ramps, etc. So is he any more vulnerable on the back of the bike with me than he is riding his bike around the block?

I'm gonna keep riding him to school, never out of the neighborhood, but I guess now I'm trying to feel better about my decisions.

Thank you again to all who helped...this is a great bunch of folks!!

Tim

 

[AZTECWARRIOR]

u KNOW what Lyrikz? I'm a parent of a little boy too. Those pictures of your boy just chokes me up. Our kids really look up & count on us, they are so trusting in our judgement, they may not know better but we do…we really owe it to them to make sure they have the best gear available & riding in the most suitable conditions.

I try to keep riding times with my boy to a minimal ‘cuz deep down in my heart I know it’s dangerous sharing the road with cagers dealing with their driving ethics. I’m already risking my life riding, why should I risk his too? But when the moment is right, little cruises around my surrounding area is all I can deal with. Expressways are out. Joe Rocket textile with body armor is my jacket of choice for the boy. Good luck all.

 

[thrasherfox]

Tbone -

I am a parent of three boys and one girl.

I am paranoid as heck about putting the boys on the back (Ages 6, 10 and 12)

But I do on occasion, and as you I have picked my 6 year old up form school on my Busa. it is 4 houses down from our house. But it was cool for all his friends to see him get on it.
I strap a helmet on him, make sure I feel him holding on to my waist real good and then I drive about 15 miles an hour.

Of course there wa this other time I went to pick my 10 year old up, I had the hump and told him he couldnt ride, but I would ride behind him. so as he walked down the side walk, I road down the side walk behind him on my Busa (glad no police were around

, and the faster he ran, the faster I road.. muah ha ha

Do what you feel is right, you sound like a good and loving parent.

Now for the tweaked out crack addict that verbally abused you.

What a freak.. crack whore even. If she would have calmly expressed her views to you in private (asked to speak with you away from your son) and then in a polite manner expressed her views without using bad language. And then calmly drove off instead of peeling out in a school zone, then maybe it would have been worth contemplating her words.

What I suspect is that she has suffered some personal loss, maybe her own child, a friends child or something similar and it was due to a motorcycle accident. and her seeing your son on the back of the bike just freaked her out and enraged her due to her own loss.

That is the only thing I can think of that would explain her actions of being verbally violent, throwing threats, and then speeding and driving recklessly through a school zone.

Best thing to do is pray for her, ask God to forgive her and help her.

Or the next time you see her you could always tell her to stop taking crack and drinking coffee that her system cant handle it

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[busarider54]

You handled that situation alot better than I would have!

 

[ridercoach]

Way to keep your cool Tbone. I say if your kid can hang on and reach the pegs. Its all right in my book. Only problem I have is the safety gear issue. At least a pair of jeans and a jacket until he gets to school. As far as that lady goes, you kept your cool a lot better than I ever would. You are an excellent example to your son and to other parents out there. I'm sure you son looks at things a little different know, knowing the proper way to react. I must admit that I did go off on a rider one time for putting there kid on a bike. Let me explain. Father picking up his daughter from day care on his motorcycle. I was leaving the day care as he was arriving. Knowing that this day care is for younger children I hung out to see exactly what this man was doing. Could he be dropping off money, or food for his child. Nope, he grabbed his 3- or 4 year old daughter and put her on the tank facing away from him. No helmet, either one, no where to hold on to. He just squeezed her in between his arms. I jumped out of my truck and let loose on this guy. He tried to pull out and I hit his engine cut off switch. He barley spoke English, but what I got from him was that it was all right to drive with children like this in his country. I informed him that this is not his country, and we have laws that protect children. (keep in mind, the whole time I was pretty cool because my daughter and his daughter were watching). He told me he was only good to the next major street(which is 5 miles away) during rush hour traffic (it aint pretty in FL) I went on to inform him that if he pulls out I have no choice but to call the police and detain him by all means. Just then the owners of the day care came out and talked the guy off his bike. And told him to never pick up the child again on the motorcycle or they will not watch her. The guy agreed and I have never seen him again. I guess mom picks up there daughter now.

As far as my kids go, as soon as they are old enough to reach the pegs and hold on, and want to go for a ride, I'm there for them. As long as safety is priority #1 I'm all go for it. We are the only ones responsible for your children's safety. We are not responsible for others but sometimes if we see something that is obviously a hazard (as in the my experience) we may have to step[ forward. The woman may have thought that this was one of those occasions, she was obviously not aware of the laws and the precautions that you take to insure your sons safety. Keep up the good work being a role model to your soon.

 

[AZTECWARRIOR]

Tell her that her bahavior had a horrible influence on your child... that's why he ended beating up her kid during lunch.  

Thanks a lot, TS....I just spit coffee all over my laptop!!

Really, thanks for all the input....I now know I'll still ride him to school...but I'm a little torn on the full gear thing....might be too much hassle for a 2 minute ride. Do not know yet how I feel about him not being in "full gear", I feel for MYSELF that shorts/tshirt/helmet on a 25 mph 8 block ride is okay...but not too sure about him. On the other hand, he can hit 20 mph on his bicycle, I'm sure, and he does that while jumping curbs, ramps, etc. So is he any more vulnerable on the back of the bike with me than he is riding his bike around the block?

I'm gonna keep riding him to school, never out of the neighborhood, but I guess now I'm trying to feel better about my decisions.

Thank you again to all who helped...this is a great bunch of folks!!

Tim

I can see your point about full gear. Off the record, perhaps partial gear is okay for 25 mph speed limits around the neighborhood w/ good visibility. I’ve done the same (trips to school & such) with at least a lightweight preforated textile jacket & leather gloves – minimal for me. The Michigan school season is not too hot so shorts are out, he's gotta wear pants 'cuz one burn from an exhaust pipe & mamma is gonna tear me a new one. The boy thinks riding gear is cool & likes to show-off. The movie XXX clinched it for the boy when the Vin Diesel’s character sported Joe Rocket attire. Style & safety, what do ya know? Take care.



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[Lyrikz]

Way to keep your cool Tbone. I say if your kid can hang on and reach the pegs. Its all right in my book. Only problem I have is the safety gear issue. At least a pair of jeans and a jacket until he gets to school. As far as that lady goes, you kept your cool a lot better than I ever would. You are an excellent example to your son and to other parents out there. I'm sure you son looks at things a little different know, knowing the proper way to react. I must admit that I did go off on a rider one time for putting there kid on a bike. Let me explain. Father picking up his daughter from day care on his motorcycle. I was leaving the day care as he was arriving. Knowing that this day care is for younger children I hung out to see exactly what this man was doing. Could he be dropping off money, or food for his child. Nope, he grabbed his 3- or 4 year old daughter and put her on the tank facing away from him. No helmet, either one, no where to hold on to. He just squeezed her in between his arms. I jumped out of my truck and let loose on this guy. He tried to pull out and I hit his engine cut off switch. He barley spoke English, but what I got from him was that it was all right to drive with children like this in his country. I informed him that this is not his country, and we have laws that protect children. (keep in mind, the whole time I was pretty cool because my daughter and his daughter were watching). He told me he was only good to the next major street(which is 5 miles away) during rush hour traffic (it aint pretty in FL) I went on to inform him that if he pulls out I have no choice but to call the police and detain him by all means. Just then the owners of the day care came out and talked the guy off his bike. And told him to never pick up the child again on the motorcycle or they will not watch her. The guy agreed and I have never seen him again. I guess mom picks up there daughter now.

As far as my kids go, as soon as they are old enough to reach the pegs and hold on, and want to go for a ride, I'm there for them. As long as safety is priority #1 I'm all go for it. We are the only ones responsible for your children's safety. We are not responsible for others but sometimes if we see something that is obviously a hazard (as in the my experience) we may have to step[ forward. The woman may have thought that this was one of those occasions, she was obviously not aware of the laws and the precautions that you take to insure your sons safety. Keep up the good work being a role model to your soon.

ahaha, wow. what a story on that one... FIrst off, if you acted like that towards me and hit my cut off switch on my bike, i woulda got off the bike and kicked your ass in front of my daughter, THEN i would of thanked you for makeing me see my wrong ways.. ya NEVER touch another mans bike. ahahaha....

Good going man, not alot of people would of done that.. You probably saved a life.. Just be careful, you can get your ass shot like that though ya know?

 

[ridercoach]

Lyrikz, advice well taken. I am pretty persuasive. People see me coming. They would have to be pretty quick to draw one on me while they are on there bike before I lay them out.

. But when it comes to kids I have no problem taking it to fists if a childs life is in danger. Im a big softy for kids.

BTW, I don't carry a Black Fanny pack for nothing.

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[Sane_man]

I have ridden on the back of motorcycles when I was a little kid and thought it was the greatest.

I also have concerns about anyone riding only wearing shorts and/or T-shirt. We are all adults and can make our own decisions on what to wear, but a little kid can't make adult decisions.

Following the "do as I say, not as I do" doctrine, I would buy the little guy his own Areostitch and helmet. He would be the envy of all the other kids when he pulls his 'stitch and helmet from his backpack, gears up, and hops on the back of Dad's Busa!

Good safety habits learned at an early age, will last a lifetime. It would also give you an incentive to take your son on rides knowing he will be safe and protected when on the road.

If I had a little kid, this is what I would do.

 

[Big_E]

First of all, I give you major props...

secondly, i woud gear up your kid even if it was just to the school. (at least a jacket & Helmet)

If you need support to parade up and down the streets with kids on the back of the bikes, let me know... me and my son and a few other friends of mine will come to your town

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[BulletTrain]

Hi Tbonebusa!

I am the wife of URIT... I was reading your thread and was shocked at what had happened to you and your son. We have 4 kids.. 19, 11, 9, and 7..The younger kids are asking to go on the bike all of the time! They love it! And yes, they are always wearing a helmet... They told me how special it was to them because it's something that we can ONLY do with Daddy!! Anyway, we live in a town where alot of people seem to just do things to impress one another. Example.... If your child is out riding her bike, you MUST have a helmet on... Same goes for riding their in - line skates ect....I grew up not wearing a helmet.... I fell, had bruised, torn up legs ect.... Guess what, I am ok! I don't make my kids wear helmets on their play toys... I think it's rediculous!!! It's a personal decision... If my kids asked for them, I would get them!

What I am getting at is this..... We are in a society that everyone thinks everything should be a CERTAIN way... It's crazy!  Here's another example.... I bought a new car last year... It's a black 2004 Grand Am GT with the sporty hood , fully loaded, leather seats ect... oh yea and it's a 4 door.... And yes, I got the 4 door for the kids sake..... I get it home and the neighbors within the first few days are outside saying... why did you buy that?? Don't you think you need something bigger for those kids??? You need a SUV ... I could have gone off on them so easily.... But, I just looked at them and said, I bought it because I wanted it and I liked it!!! But, that was an eye opener for me... It made me realize how everyone thinks ( we ) should be or act....

Here's how I feel....I ( We ) only have 1 life to live as far as I know... HA HA... and I am going to do and buy whatever I want and whatever makes me happy.... My kids are happy and well taken care of.... I would NEVER put them in harms way..... They need to be kids!!! Have memories and feel loved!

You did NOTHING wrong! If I would have seen you pull up at our school, I would have been saying... That is so very cool! It's not like you were pulling wheelies and so on... You were giving your little guy a dream ride to school!

I have also found that alot and I mean ALOT of women don't like bikes.... and I have also found that alot of them have been on them and loved them.... But, don't think they are going to let their husbands have one.... They are babe magnets!!!!! I see all the girls checking my hubby out when I am behind him in the car and following him somewhere.... I think it's awesome!!!

Maybe she is jealous!! Maybe she just CAN"T open up her eyes and realize that nothing was really wrong with what she saw... I mean, it's not every day that you see a ( lucky ) child being able to get a ride (expecially on a busa ) to school!

And for the way she acted...... Im sorry to hear that... She is the one with the problem... not you. She needs anger managment classes! HA HA!

Keep doing what you are doing! It's priceless!!! Just be careful! That's a mom talking! And I' m sure you are!!!

I don't know if you read the thread where someone bought  their wife a bike.....?

Well, I am looking at getting a GSXR 600.. I looked at other bikes and I just didn't like them....I fell in love with the 600's... Although, I would LOVE to have the Red busa! It's beautiful!! I know, some will say I am crazy because I havn't owned a bike.... But, here's how I look at it.... I need to respect that bike and learn to ride it somewhere away from the city ect.. and I will.... I could get another kind of bike.... You know, some are saying something more suitable for a first time bike.... or more suitable for a girl..... I say.... WHATEVER!!!! I can do this!! I want it!! and I will LOVE IT!!! And I can't wait to ride next to my husband!!!! We will have so much fun together!!!

My husband is supporting it also... and if he thought for one moment that I couldn't do it, he would tell me....

Hey, wonder what the neighbors will say when I am taking off from the garage on my bike??? Now, that will be something to write about!!!

Keep doing what you are doing!!! It's OK!!!!!

Yvette

Great post Yvette! Now, get yourself a personalized screen name and get involved in the board!

Let us know when you get yer bike and don't forget to post pics of it!

 

[UR IT!]

Yeah What he said...

I would also like to add that this type of self rightous, self-important, empty headed, mouth breathing, SUV driving fuggin "HOMEMAKER" is the bane of my existance.  Forget about the drunk drivers, ignore the high school kids, it's this breed of ignorant sh!thead that’s dangerous… makes my blood boil... These jackasses are what is wrong with America, and they are freakin spooky... babbling into their phones about their little average brats latest test score, or what happened last night on fuggin survivor.  Weaving in their lanes, tailgating, not using mirrors, on and on.  It’s getting close to the point where I start spraying brake fluid and pepper spray...

Pointless little idiots feeling important cause they are in a big vehicle, busily filling their little heads with mass market media and "Approved by Oprah" thought.  FUG EM'

OH and have you had one of these empty headed oxygen wasters give you the finger for their screw up?  Oh yeah, that’s brilliant...  Soggy, short haired, little housewife giving folks the finger...  Ah well, at least I can be happy in the knowledge that soon enough they will wind up getting themselves seriously beat to hell for running their mouths and thinking that there will not be consequences for their rudeness...

Am I going off?  Oh Yeah, but damnit… the fact that this is what “society†is coming to makes me kinda ill.  I mean schools give out stickers for “My child is a Super Citizen†or the “I have a super kid at BLAH BLAH Elementary† WTF?  Why not just say “I am damning my kid to a mediocre existenceâ€?  Yeah I am being harsh, but when most of us were growing up, we weren’t “Super†anything.  If we were in a Karate meet and we got eliminated early guess what NO FUGGIN TROPHY, NO NOTHING!!!  But damnit, we learned that loosing sucks and we gotta work harder.  My little nephew is a “Black Belt†in Taekwondo, yeah…an eight year old blackbelt…  OK whatever…  But what kills me is that no matter how bad a kid screws up during a competition, EVERYONE walks outta there with a freaking ribbon or a trophy…  â€œSo no one feels bad† WTF?     GRRRRRR…. And it’s parent’s like the one TboneBusa ran into this morning that really think this is a good idea…  ARRRRGH!!!!

Sorry… I gotta go kick a Puppy or something…  GRRRRR…..

Tbone, Good work man very well done….  Now find out where the dipsh!t lives and pay a visit with some Paint remover, or Brake Fluid and spell out  â€œIGNORANT BITCH†on the hood of her freaking vehicle and anywhere else you deem proper…

DITTO! DITTO! DITTO!

 

[UR IT!]

Thanks BulletTrain!!! I will make sure I post pictures ( If ) I get my bike!!! I keep going back and forth about it! I want it! I know I can do it!! But, then I will be giving up my seat on the busa

Time will tell....

Have a great weekend!

Yvette

 

[UR IT!]

Thanks BulletTrain!!! I will make sure I post pictures ( If ) I get my bike!!! I keep going back and forth about it! I want it! I know I can do it!! But, then I will be giving up my seat on the busa

Time will tell....

Have a great weekend!

Yvette

 

[BulletTrain]

Thanks BulletTrain!!! I will make sure I post pictures ( If ) I get my bike!!! I keep going back and forth about it! I want it! I know I can do it!! But, then I will be giving up my seat on the busa  

 Time will tell....

Have a great weekend!

Yvette

I know the seat on the busa must be nice, but it couldn't be as nice as havin' yer own ride even if it isn't a busa... Either way, let us know what you end up doin'. Oh, and welcome to the board. Now get a screen name that is all yours so we know when it's you and when it's the hubby postin'.

Cheers!

 

[mudnuri]

Gotta give ya another mom's view on this...

First let me say our daughters are 6 & 7, and even though they're girls, they are rougher and tougher than most boys!...

The 7 year old has a quad of her own, and artic cat 90...got it from santa this past christmas...she's got full gear, she's an excellent cautious rider etc...

The 6 year old rides on Johns XR650 around our house.... she's in front of him, simply because it's more secure than behind on the XR....

Do either of them ride the busa or my bike? no, but they have no desire to.

When they do ride the XR or the other one on her quad, they have gear on...the quad rider, has full gear, chest protector etc. the XR rider has a helmet on, and full pants....I dont think he's ever gotten out of 2nd with her on it, after all, we've only got 1/2 acre...

Keep givin the kid a ride, these are the memories he'll remember when he gets older!

Brandy



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[justintime2]

Thrasher,
Your the only one who makes decisions for your child and not others. You have to decide what your comfortable with. I think of the poop my parents let me do when I was a kid and it gives me a heart attack thinking about my daughter doing the same. No way. I took my girl out on the Busa for the first time ever last night. She loved it.