You propose on a saturday, then the next day....??

[redkat05]

well i called the two main hospitals in the area which are both super close to where I think she's stayin(where she was before) and neither show any record of her being there. However, she did say she was moving to ohio but not sure if she's there now or what so i asked her if she's stayin at her grampa's(where she was before) still or if she already moved

 

[thrasherfox]

I asked her some of the questions HB had suggested earlier but no response yet. Should I callt he ER and ask if she was admitted previously this mornin?

my previous experiences in life is she is messing with her your head.

I could be wrong, but this is something I have seen women do over and over and over..

First off, you need to stop worrying about it.. wait until you know for sure.

Second, this all started because she went out all night and didn’t come home until 8 the next morning, she could have gotten pregnant by some other guy (even if she is pregnant)

You have any idea how many times girls told me this crap, and usually it was right after I broke up with them. and then they would have a miscarriage or find out they never really were pregnant. in other words most of the time it was just games.

Unfortunately you just cant come out and say she is full of shid until you find out for sure because if she IS pregnant and it IS yours, you don’t want the baby to ever think they were not wanted. Trust me, worse feeling in the world.

But I am thinking your ex is full of crap and a manipulative little.. well I wont tell you how I really feel.. but just relax about it.

Do this, call her and tell her you want to take her to the doctors, you want to be with her through this and you want to go through this with her, be nice about it.

If she agrees then you go to the OBGYN together, if you are the father then you can be in the room with her and you will find out the truth.

If she gives you any static, tell her it is your child also and you need to do this with her.

If she still gives you static saying “no, its ok you don’t have to go with herâ€￾ any crap at all, chances are she is full of crap

If she really is pregnant, and it is yours, she will probably be a little scared and wanting support and she would probably jump at any chance you would give it to her.

Keep your friends close and keep your enemies even closer. Be nice to her until you find out the truth, if she turns out to NOT be pregnant, it was probably a game to f with your head and if I were you then I would never talk to her again.

If she is pregnant and it is yours, then work out the relationship with her. Both of you start your relationship out with a fresh start and make it work.

Just my .02

 

[redkat05]

well, reconciliation is impossible. I just don't have love for her any longer. But I am already offerin that "support" you speak of

 

[Over_Easy]

well, reconciliation is impossible. I just don't have love for her any longer. But I am already offerin that "support" you speak of

Looks more and more like she is messing w/ you.IF so, what a low down dirty ****.  If she was truly pregnant would she not say I'm at so and so hospital call me ASAP at this number, we need to talk, etc.?

DO NOT offer support financially directly to her until you know for sure if:
1. She is indeed pregnant.
2. The baby is yours.

<s>If she is, tell the OBGYN behind closed doors you want to confirm the baby is yours and if there is a private way for you to do that at this point in the pregnancy. </s>SCRATCH THAT, this is an invasive precedure and cannot be done without her consent or knowlege, but let's not go there yet.

http://pregnancy.about.com/gi....al.html



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[VaBusa]

I've got to ask...what was her reason for heading to the ER?  Most gals don't go there while pregnant unless something is very, very wrong and that's normally at least 6 weeks along...they certainly don't go there for "feeling a little under the weather" then *viola* by the way "I'm pregnant"...

It is all very suspicious to me as well...



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[redkat05]

ok it gets REAL fishy now.........She just called and I worked it into the convo at which hospital she went to. She said Hamot........Hamot is the first place I called and they said they had no record of her ever bein there. She said she went to the hospital a lil after 1 or so in the mornin, it should still show up right, even though she was there at 1am?

 

[VaBusa]

ok it gets REAL fishy now.........She just called and I worked it into the convo at which hospital she went to. She said Hamot........Hamot is the first place I called and they said they had no record of her ever bein there. She said she went to the hospital a lil after 1 or so in the mornin, it should still show up right, even though she was there at 1am?

Run Forest, RUN!!!

Yeah, hospitals know who's been there and who hasn't...she could be admitted to the ER and family could call a minute later and they'd know exactly where she is...

 

[Over_Easy]

ok it gets REAL fishy now.........She just called and I worked it into the convo at which hospital she went to. She said Hamot........Hamot is the first place I called and they said they had no record of her ever bein there. She said she went to the hospital a lil after 1 or so in the mornin, it should still show up right, even though she was there at 1am?

Did you actually speak w/ someone in ER and not some receptionist desk clerk? Hospitals are not infallable.

Who did you talk to and how did the conversation go?

 

[redkat05]

how far back does the record go though? They should still have had her on record even if she was there at 1am right?

 

[Over_Easy]

how far back does the record go though? They should still have had her on record even if she was there at 1am right?

If she was there she should be on a record. Just make sure you got a hold of someone who was willing to do the work to find out. If you don't feel confident w/ the person you originally spoke with call back and tell them it is of great importance that you know if she is still there, if she ever was.

 

[redkat05]

lady that answered the phone said "ER this is soandso can I help you?"

"Hi i'm calling because my fiance' left me a message sayin she was goin to the ER but i haven't received any other messages in response so i was calling to see if she's still there or if she's been released?" ER ladie:"what's her name sir?" ME:"julie *****" ER ladie:" sir i'm not showing her in our records." ME: " would it show if she's been there and released?" ER ladie: "Yes sir. Let me see if she's in the hospital. No sir we show now record of her being here at all." ME: "Thank you for your time miss"

 

[redkat05]

ok..........i'm startin to think

because i just called back to the Hamot ER and talked to the same girl and she said "Yeah i tried four different searches after we got off the phone to verify and the last time any julie ***** was admitted here was back in May. Are you ok?" I said "yeah I think people are just messin wiht my head"



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[VaBusa]

The gal at the hospital sounded competent enough...

Just wow...

 

[Over_Easy]

Not sure if you should feel relieved because you know she lied or if you should be completely livid because she lied, or both.

You can't trust a word she says anymore...so don't. She just wanted to put you through your own privatre hell...give yourself a pat on the back for kicking her out of your life.

 

[redkat05]

no not me..........
credit goes to all of you, my fellow busa brothers..........once again much love for all of you, some of you that i've talked to personally i feel are not CLOSE friends but friends i would trust above some "friends" i've had and some that i still have............

thanks again my busa brothers

 

[Wag]

Man, you're lucky. I had a girl try to fake a pregnancy because she thought I'd marry her if she did. Fortunately, she was dumb as a brick and screwed it all up but still, my heart skipped a few beats in the mean time.

Seems like you'll be juuuuuuust fine now!

--Wag--

 

[heavybusa]

Let me know if you need anything bro.

Even if its a sounding board.

 

[redkat05]

i'm calm now for the most part. I mean if she said she went to Hamot ER and they have no record of her bein there then somethin ain't right. She's lyin about somethin

 

[MrGxr]

Ok, I was able to read through this and get a better understanding of the last few posts....
Be careful here... if she is messing with you about being pregnant and heading to ER, what's next?
If she really is pregnant and heading to the ER and then Texts you about it... what is she trying to accomplish?
Please be careful here... no one knows what is going through her mind except her...
Hell I don't know, just don't let her get to you and be careful....

 

[redkat05]

well i'm not holding any stock in it until i see the dx slip. I'm gonna have her bring it when she comes to pick up the table n dresser