You propose on a saturday, then the next day....??
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Jay,
I'm here for ya bro, but if you weren't looking to have a child and you knew she wasn't on birth control for the first few months you were together...Hayzeus age crimminees! If you were sitting here next to me I would slap you in the back of the head.
She wasn't feeling right and dizzy? Was she hungover from an all night bender? Unless she's a hypochondriac or has an existing medical condition you typically don't go to the ER unless you're pretty damn sick and not able to walk your so dizzy.
As stated before tell her how concerned you are and ask her for the hospital and doctor's name who treated her and what were the results. Even though w/ HIPPA the doctor is not allowed to tell you sh!t...but does she know that?
In light of recent events the whole thing sounds shady at best. If it is confirmed she is indeed pregnant get the freakin' paternity test.
So my first question is "was she even at the hospital" call there and ask for her to see if she is even there.
If the nurse knows her and gives you the room number we are sure she is or was there.
If not call her cell and just talk to her, dont come right out with it.
Ask her for details like, could they tell how far along you were?, how did they think to test for it?, was there anything else wrong?, how are you feeling now?, maybe even why didnt she call you last night?.
Then ask when the follow up appointments are?
If she doesnt know this stuff you can begin to wonder and call her on her BS?
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If the nurse knows her and gives you the room number we are sure she is or was there.
If not call her cell and just talk to her, dont come right out with it.
Ask her for details like, could they tell how far along you were?, how did they think to test for it?, was there anything else wrong?, how are you feeling now?, maybe even why didnt she call you last night?.
Then ask when the follow up appointments are?
If she doesnt know this stuff you can begin to wonder and call her on her BS?
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Some good ideas there HB. Especially the call the hospital and ask them for her.
Once you get the name, call and tell the ER you received a message from your fiance' that she was in their ER and you're trying to contact her/confirm she is there.
Good grief
If she's playing games, this is the lowest of games...I know you'll do what's right should any of this be true, but tread lightly and be very careful about what you say/do with her until you know the truth...
Women can play some wicked mind games...
for the most part I'm just ashamed, if its true that is. One thing i've always wanted to do is to only bring a child into the world in a loving family, a pair of loving parents. I don't want the child to be ashamed of how he/she was brought into the world.........I was brought up with VERY loving parents and I only want the best of love for my child, whenever they come into this world
I was brought up the same way red, and I to was ashamed and the guilt almost drove me to a horrible decision.
We can definitely chat anytime via e-mail @ Fasthayabusa@gmail.com.
You have to focus on you and make sure that you are not being taken advantage of because you have such strong morals and values.
Like VA said, women can be very vindictive.
We can definitely chat anytime via e-mail @ Fasthayabusa@gmail.com.
You have to focus on you and make sure that you are not being taken advantage of because you have such strong morals and values.
Like VA said, women can be very vindictive.
I wanted to say something similar VaBusa but didn't want to be pigeon-holed as some male chauvinistic pig. Women can be downright wicked and can play games above and beyond most men.Good grief
If she's playing games, this is the lowest of games...I know you'll do what's right should any of this be true, but tread lightly and be very careful about what you say/do with her until you know the truth...
Women can play some wicked mind games...This game, if it is one, is just damn low...
Hey, PEOPLE in general can be cruel, but I know that women can misuse a situation, such as "faking pregnancy" followed shortly by the "miscarriage"...to me, it's just so low to play on anyone's emotions like that...I wanted to say something similar VaBusa but didn't want to be pigeon-holed as some male chauvinistic pig. Women can be downright wicked and can play games above and beyond most men.Good grief
If she's playing games, this is the lowest of games...I know you'll do what's right should any of this be true, but tread lightly and be very careful about what you say/do with her until you know the truth...
Women can play some wicked mind games...This game, if it is one, is just damn low...
I don't mind saying women are messed up...
Gosh Darnit Jay, you have nothing to be ashamed of, so just stop it already. You've already convinced yourself that she indeed is pregant and ruled out the fact that she could very well be stringing you along and purposely trying to cause stress in your life because she simply wants revenge for breaking up w/ her.
Based on your experiences expressed here, she's been playing you on several occassions. Your first order of business is to confirm if she is telling the truth...and don't ask her if she's being honest, telling the truth, etc. At your first opportunity get to it.
god, i thought i had a clarity bout my life after she and i broke up. I felt cleansed, felt free and vindicated. Now i'm right back to "WTF do I do with my life".............i've always wanted to be a dad, since i was really young i wanted a family but not like this........the poor kid. Only consolation is that i'd be a F**KIN great dad! That does bring about an interesting point though, what girl wants a guy with a kid :-/
If you have a hospital name, YES! Again ask for the ER and pretend that as far as you know she is still there. At this point she is still your fiance' and she left you a message saying she was there. They will either tell you she was here or we never had anyone here by that name. Get as much info as you can, if any.
However, they will likely not disclose any medical info. to you unless she signed a waiver w/ your name on it (HIPPA).
By this do you mean you text messaged her...no phone call?
Whoa, don't get ahead of yourself here...
YOU NEED THE FACTS before you even worry about steps 2, 3 and beyond...you need to know that there's indeed a pregnancy before you worry about everything you're worrying about...
I know that's going to be very hard, but trust me, all of the worrying now isn't changing a single thing. Can you call the ER and ask if a patient is still there? At least see if she was there? I know it's tough to get info and rightly so (patient privacy), but there are ways to determine if said patient was even there to begin with...
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