Trying to get my own screen name so you all will know it is me, but for now gotta use this one. My intentions for responding to this thread was merely to illustrate that Robert is being attacked for an accident that he was not the only one involved in. I do not want to attack Jimmy for anything. I never stated that he was not going through a bad time. Believe me, I know from experience that he is and my heart goes out to him for this.
I know what it feels like not to be able to hold your child or have that kind of physical bond with them. My daughter was unable to hug me due to the pain it would cause. She also had to be tucked in by others and her prayers said because i was be ridden. That really hurt me since i taught her the prayers and was there for it every night like clockwork for the lat 7.5 years.
I am sorry that Jimmy was hurt in any kind of way, just as I am sorry I was and Robert was. I do not want anything to be taken out of context as it can be when it is just written words and you can not hear emotion in a voice. For those who have stated if you were not directly involved, then stay out of it...THANKYOU...couldn't have said it better myself. All that will cause is heated arguments between others and put distance between the the ones on our side or Jimmy's. There should be NO sides. Everyone could either believe what I say, Robert says, or Jimmy says, but you will NEVER know for sure what was said or done because you were not there.
If Robert were to take SOME RESPONSIBILITY for this, shouldn't that be between the three of us? Why should he publicly apoligize with people who had nothing to do with the accident? Same goes for Jimmy. He should not have to either.
The problem I have is that everyone wants Robert to come out and say he screwed up, but if that is the case shouldn't Jimmy, because as many have stated he was just as much at fault. I believe that there were two SEPERATE accidents on that mountain resulting in very bad injuries. I have seen many remarks about Robert not being injured. What if he had have been? What if he would have died that day? Would there be any attacks then or would it be "RIP Fallen Rider" from all of you? It almost sounds as if you wish he would have been hurt? Is that the case? We can argue all we want, but it will never change the fact it happened.
All I have ever heard from Robert was how many great people there were on this site, but so far I have seen a whole lot of lynching mobs wanting to crucify one man for what they feel was solely on him. I don't feel that Robert should constantly be poked at out of the nowhere on something he said that had nothing to do with the accident by someone that just wants to keep the fire going. There was no real reason to do that but to be mean. Making a statement about high insurance is entirely different from "poor me" as it was made out to be. No one knows what is in his heart, and by not replying to these things it does not mean he is "sweeping it under the rug", as it was put. It merely means he does not wish to fight with people about something that is none of their business. There is a time and place for everything and a public forum is not it.
We will all have to carry around emotional and some physical scars that will remind us everyday of that event. We don't need anyone else to do it for us. The least everyone could do is let this play out between the three of us that were involved.
I do not wish hardship on anyone of us and I do not want hard feelings towards me for stating what I feel either because we will eventually be attending further events and no one wants to argue at them. I did not see Jimmy on here complaining about anything until Robert's thread was needlessly attacked. So you see, one person can stir the pot for an entire mob for no reason. Please just let it die if you were not one of us three. The three of us do not owe public penance to anyone.
And another thing...I do not appreciate my relationship with Robert being attacked because of age. You don't know us or anything about us. You may not like it, but I don't care. He is a great man and a lot better to me than any other guy I have ever met. Ask any woman and she will tell you she would prefer someone that treats her with respect and will be good to her and her child. If you only had a brain that wasn't in your pants you would understand my relationship. Don't be jealous and hating because the man gets to live out every other mans dream.
Naomi