I havent read all the posts in the thread, but yes I have been there. With 3 younger sisters it was inevitable. I used to get involved. The problem was they always went back for more, no matter what I did or tried to help because they asked me, it always went sour. One of my sisters has a knack for picking the worst men, they abuse her, use her, and treat her like crap. We helped her all we could, got her straightened out and then she posts up on craigslist looking for love. Well guess what kind of guy she finds? She moves out with her 3 kids to move in with him. Then moves out a week later to move in with another guy she met on craigslist. My other sister has nasty temper, dates a guy with the same thing. They are like oil and water. Helped her get straight, now they are married and she is pregnant. I told her no more 2am phone call screaming at me to get over there. I am done. They are grown adults and need to act like it. I dont speak to my two youngest sisters anymore. My oldest sister is the only one that does not give me any grief, but we are the closest in age. Now my mother basically supports my two younger sisters and my mother can barely afford to support herself. I do what I can to help my mother, but you cant help someone that wont help themselves. One day they just have to grow up or you need to distance yourself. You cant live their lives for them. Good luck bro.