Go see if she got the Tattoo, if she has work out a schedue wit her.
What most mean and women do not seem to remember is that most of us would rather see them ride there own bike anyway. Just like everything else people get friendly with like people. It never means that a male or female is going to just toss away a relationship if a biker Babe or biker Buster comes along and sweeps us off our feet. That can happen anywhere, bikes, boats, cars, horses, dogs, cats, coctail bars, etc. which depends on the individuals not the Sport or hobby.Man, does this strike a nerve.
The girl I'm seeing said from the beginning that she'd never ride a bike. She said she is VERY scared of them. I teased her about it but she stood firm. She said she would NOT ride. So, rule #1 was born... I won't ask her again to ride, she will never ask me not to. And so it was...
Then, about a week ago she brings up riding. She says that she has decided she wants to try it. The way it was brought up and several other cues set off red flags. So, I ask why the sudden change of heart. She says it's because she sees how passionate I am about riding and some other made up reasons... My years of LE training and experience in detecting deception tells me she's not bein' honest about it, so I push it. I tell her that I don't believe that's why she wants to try it and again ask what brought this decision about.
Anyway, after I refused to believe the made up story and fake reasons she gave me I told her that she ain't ridin' until she tells me the real reason for wanting to do so. She finally admitted to lying about the reasons and says that she and a female co-worker/friend of hers was talkin' about me riding and the fact that she would not ride. Seems the friend made a comment about me dumpin' her for a "biker chick", or someone who would ride if I enjoyed it that much.
Besides bein' pissed about bein' lied to, I don't play the game of actin' like you're somethin' you're not to win somebody over. Again, those years of LE have taught me that this never works in the long run. You can keep up the show long enough to hook someone into marriage, but that's when it all changes and people start to revert back to their true self. That's a leading cause of most domestics I've worked over the years. I wish I had a nickle for each time I've heard "You weren't like this before we got married!" screamed across a room. Could get that big bore kit and turbo that I so badly want.
So, after she admitted that this was the case, I told her she won't be riding with me. To hell with it. I'd rather she be true to herself and not ride than to try and do it just because I enjoy it. I ain't goin' down that road. Seen way too many times where it goes. This is exactly why I'm still single... Haven't found a girl that is willing to be herself despite what I like. They all want to try and be what I want instead of what they are. GEEESH!!!
Don't get me wrong, I'm not bashin' the ladies because it's not just chicks. From what I've seen at work, most dudes are just as retarded. Oh well... Job security I guess. Hehehehehehehe...
And now back to the regularly scheduled program.
Exactly NE... Well said...
Okay BT...I'll offer up some advice, and you know, I don't do that much!Man, does this strike a nerve.
The girl I'm seeing said from the beginning that she'd never ride a bike. She said she is VERY scared of them. I teased her about it but she stood firm. She said she would NOT ride. So, rule #1 was born... I won't ask her again to ride, she will never ask me not to. And so it was...
Then, about a week ago she brings up riding. She says that she has decided she wants to try it. The way it was brought up and several other cues set off red flags. So, I ask why the sudden change of heart. She says it's because she sees how passionate I am about riding and some other made up reasons... My years of LE training and experience in detecting deception tells me she's not bein' honest about it, so I push it. I tell her that I don't believe that's why she wants to try it and again ask what brought this decision about.
Anyway, after I refused to believe the made up story and fake reasons she gave me I told her that she ain't ridin' until she tells me the real reason for wanting to do so. She finally admitted to lying about the reasons and says that she and a female co-worker/friend of hers was talkin' about me riding and the fact that she would not ride. Seems the friend made a comment about me dumpin' her for a "biker chick", or someone who would ride if I enjoyed it that much.
Besides bein' pissed about bein' lied to, I don't play the game of actin' like you're somethin' you're not to win somebody over. Again, those years of LE have taught me that this never works in the long run. You can keep up the show long enough to hook someone into marriage, but that's when it all changes and people start to revert back to their true self. That's a leading cause of most domestics I've worked over the years. I wish I had a nickle for each time I've heard "You weren't like this before we got married!" screamed across a room. Could get that big bore kit and turbo that I so badly want.
So, after she admitted that this was the case, I told her she won't be riding with me. To hell with it. I'd rather she be true to herself and not ride than to try and do it just because I enjoy it. I ain't goin' down that road. Seen way too many times where it goes. This is exactly why I'm still single... Haven't found a girl that is willing to be herself despite what I like. They all want to try and be what I want instead of what they are. GEEESH!!!
Don't get me wrong, I'm not bashin' the ladies because it's not just chicks. From what I've seen at work, most dudes are just as retarded. Oh well... Job security I guess. Hehehehehehehe...
And now back to the regularly scheduled program.
Tell her I've got a little yellow Harley to start on! That's where I started...I think everyone should learn on a Harley, then move UP to a Busa!!! Makes you appreciate something more advancedI have to sneak in rides...if I wanna get some alone time. She's totally into it and wants to start racing myyyy bike..eeerrrrr I can't complain though, I love having her with me as much as possible. She's been looking at 600's for a few weeks, up until she seen Michelle's pic with her busa, luckily she understands the starter bike concept.
Dr. Phil, is that you?Okay BT...I'll offer up some advice, and you know, I don't do that much!
In her defense, that "friend" of hers got her worried...it's normal for a gal to feel threatened by things she doesn't understand...I've been there many times...women convince themselves that they need to be something they're not, or they'll not be attractive to their guy any more...some guys fuel that fire, but I don't see you as one of "those guys"!
I know you're upset about being lied to, but try to chalk it up to her own insecurities, her friend planting ideas in that little blonde head that aren't necessarily fact, and talk to her. Tell her that above all else, you want her to be true to herself...if she never wants to ride, then she should never try to be someone she's not for fear of things that aren't even an issue. Women (me) tend to make issues out of things that aren't even worth worrying about...I speak from experience...it would mean the world to her if you forgive this little lapse in judgment, reinforce how you feel about riding for your own peace of mind, reinforce that you don't expect her to do the same, and tell her not to let friends dictate what her future might hold...
Chin up...
Hey...what can I say? Women are hard to understand...hell, I'm one and I don't understand myself most of the time!Dr. Phil, is that you?Okay BT...I'll offer up some advice, and you know, I don't do that much!
In her defense, that "friend" of hers got her worried...it's normal for a gal to feel threatened by things she doesn't understand...I've been there many times...women convince themselves that they need to be something they're not, or they'll not be attractive to their guy any more...some guys fuel that fire, but I don't see you as one of "those guys"!
I know you're upset about being lied to, but try to chalk it up to her own insecurities, her friend planting ideas in that little blonde head that aren't necessarily fact, and talk to her. Tell her that above all else, you want her to be true to herself...if she never wants to ride, then she should never try to be someone she's not for fear of things that aren't even an issue. Women (me) tend to make issues out of things that aren't even worth worrying about...I speak from experience...it would mean the world to her if you forgive this little lapse in judgment, reinforce how you feel about riding for your own peace of mind, reinforce that you don't expect her to do the same, and tell her not to let friends dictate what her future might hold...
Chin up...
Dang Michelle, you got all serious on us there for a minute. Thanks for the peep into the female brain, scary as it was!
You're pretty much on though about her motives, I think... She made the statement that I should be flattered that she'd do such a thing to be with me. Maybe so, but lies and deception are not very flattering to me. I get plenty of that at work. Not going to work for the truth at home, too... I refuse.
If she had just came out and said it that way before the lies, things would have been smooth. To me, lying to someone is like telling them that they aren't smart enough to know the difference. That, and they don't deserve the truth. It's a flat out slap in the face. I may hurt someone's feelings with honesty but not with a lie. Just how I am.
Anyway, everything is good for now. We already talked about this... We'll see where it goes from here...
