Might be that some of them really don't and use the significant other as an excuse.
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Might be that some of them really don't and use the significant other as an excuse.
I meant to say it's okay with them. Not let us. Sorry, I was in a hurry yesterday and didn't realize what I just wrote.
I'm sure all of you have heard of guys whether friends or relatives that want to start riding but their wife/girlfriend won't let them. I know 4 of them right now that want to ride and just can't do it.
When I took my MSF class in Hagerstown back in October of '05, my wife even went with me. She got up so early, we then had breakfast at IHOP before it started and she sat in the car the whole morning just watching us. Also, she kept telling me to pop a wheelie several times.You know, I'm the same way with her even when we were still dating. I always tell her..."We only live once. If it's going to make you happy and you can afford it, go for it."
What do you guys think? I understand the danger that's involved in motorcycling. I know it's a risk. So, what do you guys think?
Are we the lucky ones to have a girlfriend or wife that let us ride? Let me hear from you.
She rides too. That is the best!
Bad situation when a spouse does not support the other. It is a relationship killer. If she is wise, she will back down and support you.
She may be waiting to see how persistent you are and waiting to see if it is just a passing fad.
Better work on it together before it grows into resentment.
She may be waiting to see how persistent you are and waiting to see if it is just a passing fad.
Better work on it together before it grows into resentment.
when i am in a relationship, it is because i have found someone i like and want to spend time with, not try to change and control...i expect the same from her...if she doesn't like me for who i am (which includes being a rider), she is more than welcome to leave
Amen.
My wife tells me every time I go on a big ride "if you get hurt, i'm gonna KILL you".
You can't blame them. Put yourself in their shoes. They know it's dangerous; no matter how good you might be, there is always some cager out there that can negate everything. Their entire life and future resides on you being there, so I don't hold it against her. Put the shoe on the other foot, what if you wife was dead set on doing something you didn't want her to do (start smoking or something; my wife actually quit smoking when we started dating because that was a game-ender for me) and you told HER no way? How would you feel if they did it anyway and in what manner would you react. Being with someone is a partnership (at least to SOME extent). I try to acknowledge her fear and that seems to placate her enough. If I don't feel/desire something strongly enough that I want to get into a fight with her, sometimes I won't do it (you don't have to win EVERY time).
I didn't ride for the first 6 years of my daughter's life (but guess what, I DID skydive - I know, sounds a little bass-ackwards). My wife now also rides (albeit not like me) and she likes it. And she says i'm in a much better mood if I get a little ride (or a skydive) and therefore more pleasant to be with.
I still don't spend as much time at the Bashes as I'd like, nor do as many track days as I'd like to because of her wishes, but that's the way it is.
So, before you guys start with the "get some balls" response, think about what would happen if she pulled the same stunt on you.
You can't blame them. Put yourself in their shoes. They know it's dangerous; no matter how good you might be, there is always some cager out there that can negate everything. Their entire life and future resides on you being there, so I don't hold it against her. Put the shoe on the other foot, what if you wife was dead set on doing something you didn't want her to do (start smoking or something; my wife actually quit smoking when we started dating because that was a game-ender for me) and you told HER no way? How would you feel if they did it anyway and in what manner would you react. Being with someone is a partnership (at least to SOME extent). I try to acknowledge her fear and that seems to placate her enough. If I don't feel/desire something strongly enough that I want to get into a fight with her, sometimes I won't do it (you don't have to win EVERY time).
I didn't ride for the first 6 years of my daughter's life (but guess what, I DID skydive - I know, sounds a little bass-ackwards). My wife now also rides (albeit not like me) and she likes it. And she says i'm in a much better mood if I get a little ride (or a skydive) and therefore more pleasant to be with.
I still don't spend as much time at the Bashes as I'd like, nor do as many track days as I'd like to because of her wishes, but that's the way it is.
So, before you guys start with the "get some balls" response, think about what would happen if she pulled the same stunt on you.
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Let em win this and ya might as well mail their nads to Hillary she'll put em w/Bills
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I have a great wife and daughter. I think about them all the time which keeps me on check. Since being with my wife I went throught the whole car show thing with tons of money into a car I hardly drove,the jry skies,lifted trucks , motorcycles and 4 wheelers. She has always brrn with me in it all. she is my best freind, Thats what makes doing all these things with her so great.Now I can share all the fun with her and our daughter.I tell my wife all the time if there is something she wants or wants to do lets get it or do it. Were only hear once. I love having them with me. I would love for her to ride but all in do time.
This is also what I tell people most of the time. We only live once. Make the most out of it.
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okay, can someone here tell me how dating a woman who not only rides, but rides a busa, is anything BUY an EPIC WIN?
I mean, seriously.
And for these guys who have wives or gfs that tell them they cant ride: these guys should say "fine. if I can't ride, you cant shop."
See how long that lasts. I'd seriously have to consider losing ANY person in my life that tried to dictate what I did. I would never tell someone what they could or couldnt do, and id expect the same amount of RESPECT from someone else.
I mean, seriously.
And for these guys who have wives or gfs that tell them they cant ride: these guys should say "fine. if I can't ride, you cant shop."
See how long that lasts. I'd seriously have to consider losing ANY person in my life that tried to dictate what I did. I would never tell someone what they could or couldnt do, and id expect the same amount of RESPECT from someone else.
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