Road Rage this Morning... Yup

[Revlis]

All right.... Just a case of "Morning Revlis" this AM... I know even after the Talking here yesterday...

This morning I stop short at a light so I am not blocking this little residential road and those folks can be on their way. Well I figure might as well do the nice thing because I will be sitting through a couple turns of this light anyway. So, as I am letting a few cars out and the guy next to me is doing the same, the Light up ahead turns green. Well there is still NO WAY we are going to make it through so I let the last guy get out onto the road ahead of me. While doing that some dude in a Minivan behind me lays on the horn... I was kind of irked, I mean where the fug are we going to get to anyway??? We're not going to make this light...

So, Pissed off and irritated I give the guy the finger as I move ahead to sit at the light... Well then I look in my mirror and he's giving me the Bird... I am like "WTF?" That's like "Double Uncool"... *Sigh*

So it should have ended there... Light changes and we all go about our day Drama Free... RIGHT? WRONG!!!! This is Morning Revlis! Not Good...

OH yeah, I throw the car in Park Whip off my seat belt and I am on my way back to fugwit. I storm up to his drivers side window, and nearly remove it from it's track with my punch... (Oh YEah I'm a fuggin Genius)

I yell as I punch the window "Get outta the Fuggin Car" (Wee.... I'm a rocket scientist...) Oddly enough, the Thuggy Hooded Hardcore Gansta dude, does NOT step out of his car... His eyes are Big as saucers as he sits back up in his seat, now realizing that indeed his driver’s window will in fact hold up...

Then he starts running his mouth and digging around the edge of his seat... I'm thinking at this point "Yeah Pull a Gun and see what Happens" (Oh Yeah I'm Tough When Pissed Off) (Again, I'm a fuggin Idiot...I know this...Save your Applause).

So he's flailing around digging for (Whatever)... Giving me time think to myself, "Self, what the fug are you doing? Didn't we just cover this kind of stupidity yesterday?"

We'll my Gansta friend comes up empty handed, apparently the wife has the pistol today.

I knocked on the window this time, and asked him politely to roll down his window just a bit... He says "You fuggin touch me I'll cut you, You don't know what I am capable of! What the Fug you thinking walking back here like this, beating on my car...?"

I said... "You aren't going to do anything but sit there and shake." (Yeah I'm a fuggin Hero... Oh aren't I clever)

Then I said

"You know what though, you have a good point, What the FUG am I doing out here in the street fuggin around? This is stupid, neither of us needs this BS Hassle and Drama."

I apologized, He had rolled his window down a bit at this point, so I shook his hand, said "sorry about the hassle man", I carefully explained why I had gotten upset, and got back in my car....

Went about my business, just in time to catch the green light...

I am WAY TOO STRESSED TO BE DEALING WITH MORNING TRAFFIC SAFELY...

Hell, Embarrassed myself, embarrassed the Mrs. (Oh that wasn't cool) and in general just showed my A$$ to everyone there at the intersection...

Can you imagine how stupid I looked? Out there walloping the side of a Mini-van? Dress shirt tucked in, pointy beard a pointing? I imagine myself sitting a car or two back from this scene, looking at some dude walloping the side of a mini-van and saying to the Wife... "Look as this Fuggin Idiot right here..." "Get back in your car jack-ass..."

 

[Revlis]

BUT, I do think it served as a reminder that I need to CHILL!!!! Relax a little bit, and listen to my own advice...

I am allways saying "Don't Sweat the Little Shid." and "It's all Little Shid"....

BUT, there I was being a fuggin Bafoon...

Damnit... What an ASS AM I!

I think the move to Washington and the change in Habbits, schedule's and well my life, will be good... And NONE too Soon....

OK, Ya'll can point and laugh now... I know I stepped on my poncho strings this Morning...

 

[Mrs. Revlis]

Yep... always the supportive spouse.



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[Hackabusa]

its cool, glad you came out of it alright, I've been there many times and done similarly stupid things. The problem for me is I usually do it to someone I know or work with and then I really feel stupid, I don't realize it is someone I know until I have already spewed a few vulgarities and such. I haven't done this in a while, so this brings back memories. Don't let it ruin your day.

 

[busabad]

Ride safe...drive safer!!

 

[Revlis]

its cool, glad you came out of it alright, I've been there many times and done similarly stupid things.  The problem for me is I usually do it to someone I know or work with and then I really feel stupid, I don't realize it is someone I know until I have already spewed a few vulgarities and such.  I haven't done this in a while, so this brings back memories.  Don't let it ruin your day.

Yeah Man, I hear ya...

I mean I play rough here on the board, I talk a lot of crap, but it's meant in fun, or at least provide a giggle now and then. Some folks get all excited but by and large everyone can at least get a chuckle out of it.

But this mornings little exercise in Brutal Stupidity really highlighted just how out of focus I am. It's good I guess, no one got hurt, no blood no foul, and I'm going to make a point of remembering and learning... Man, I need to get back to reading more of Morihei Ueshiba, the Founder of Aikido... Aikido isn't simply punch-kick-punch with a little philosophy. Aikido is much more Mental disclipline and control. A way of living, and mind set.

When I was really active, practicing a lot, I remember NOBODY could get to me. I didn't get excited, I didn't punch car windows anyway, and my stress levels were MUCH lower... Something like this Morning would have never happened. Definitely...

Just a thought, you don't really need to go to a Dojo to learn the Mental philosophies of Aikido, in fact some dojo's skip the philosophy altogether but there are some good books out there, translations of Morihei Ueshiba's writing and philosophy. Just the philosophy can be a big help in keeping centered, relaxed, That's what I gotta do...

Oh and a change of Venue will help...

 

[him]

Sweet

U bout it bout it!!!

 

[VaBusa]

No...not laughing at you Rev...just laughing because I know all too well how something so silly can just make you go nuts...before you know it, you're the fool, yelling and pointing, or in this case, actually removing yourself from your vehicle and threatening bodily harm.  While I've never actually gotten out of a car to show idiot A how not to piss off idiot B, I often drive down the road for several minutes, heart racing and blood pressure clearly up and face red, wishing I'd done this and that to show someone just how much they pissed me off...

I, for one, and kind of proud of you getting out of the car...no, no...not cool to take things out on an innocent minivan, but seriously, the guy needed a reality check...some insight in to one simple fact - "you aren't the center of the universe sweetie"...no one is...

Reminded me of something that happened just a week or so ago on my way to work...I'm behind this slow azzed Civic (no, it wasn't WWJD, although SHE did resemble his blue eye-shadowed mug posted on here a while back

).  In fact, she'd pulled out on me, but I didn't get myself upset over it.  I was probably listening to my new CDs or something, thinking "damn, I'm cool that I know the words to that song" or something like that...

Well, we turn on to another road; just happens to be the road I make most of my passes on...little traffic, only have to dodge a few deer occassionally...I put my signal on to pass (no, I don't usually do that, but I was feeling the love this day), and threw the Stang down in to 3rd, stomped it...I don't usually even look over at those pathetically slow people I pass, unless I think HE'S cute, but this time I did glance over.  To my complete and utter surprise, she was giving me the finger for passing her!

It was immediate...my "hey, you can't do that to me" response was nothing more than elevated blood pressure, a few choice words interrupting my music, then my finger goes up in the rear window, a few flicks for good measure, and I drive off thinking "who's the idiot?"  Hrmmm, I'm still banking on it being her...I didn't do anything wrong or illegal, dangerous or questionable...I rolled in to work 15 minutes later, still pissed and moaning...my coworkers think I hold on to things a bit too long..

Don't be too hard on yourself Rev...these things happen...

 You were very adult about it and handled yourself very well in the end...AND, this is MOST important, I bet that guy will think twice before offering up his opinion of others around him...he drove away thinking "I may have been THIS close to being a victim of road rage!  Hrmmm, so THAT'S how it happens?!"  

 

[warbrown]

Nice recovery Revlis. Sounds like it could have been a lot worse. I find the best way to deal with those kind of people off without endangering myself is to either not give them the time of day, or to respond to their provokations with kindness. It's the same principle I try to teach my kids when they are teasing each other. Just ignore them and don't give them the satisfaction of seeing you get upset, or really throw them off guard and be kind to them in some way despite their nastiness. That being said, I must admit I've had many a weak moment while driving where charitable thoughts were not foremost in my mind.

I'm glad all worked out OK for you.

 

[BulletTrain]

I'm just glad he didn't get out and stomp your ass...

 

[Mikey D]

So Rev...

Hows the non smoking thing going?

 

[busahaya]

Well at least you managed to put yourself in check before things would've really got out of hand or you putting a beat down on ol'boy.. You have alot on your mind with the whole move to WA & this dude just pushed a button he should'nt have. You did the right thing in the end though Bro

 

[jay21112]

Wow, your crazy man.

Unfortunately not crazy good in this case.

You acted just like that guy in the hummer in WWJD's story... most uncool.

BUT.... I guess you kina redeemed yourself by making peace and apologizing at the end... so your one up on that hummer prlck.

I've had somebody behind me piss me off so much that I stopped in the middle of the road and parked my car to piss them off. I wasn't going to be the first one out of my car, so I just sat there and waited 5 minutes. I was hoping that he would get out of his car "to give me a talking to," cause I would have gotten out of my car then.

I can fly off the handle, just like everyone else, but I have a strict rule about initiating conflict that I have never broken.

You gotta get your behind to the gym (and if you already go, you gotta work out harder!). You gotta release that aggression somehow. You'll feel a lot better after pounding on a heavy bag for 15 minutes, believe me.

 

[S7R4NGER]

Yep... always the supportive spouse.

I imagine myself sitting a car or two back from this scene, looking at some dude walloping the side of a mini-van and saying to the Wife... "Look as this Fuggin Idiot right here..." "Get back in your car jack-ass..."
LOL

LOL A LOT ! ! ! ! ! It's a good thing you had time to think...
Well done! You did the right thing!

 

[bacharles]

  All right....   Just a case of "Morning Revlis" this AM...  I know even after the Talking here yesterday...

This morning I stop short at a light so I am not blocking this little residential road and those folks can be on their way.  Well I figure might as well do the nice thing because I will be sitting through a couple turns of this light anyway.  So, as I am letting a few cars out and the guy next to me is doing the same, the Light up ahead turns green.  Well there is still NO WAY we are going to make it through so I let the last guy get out onto the road ahead of me.  While doing that some dude in a Minivan behind me lays on the horn...  I was kind of irked, I mean where the fug are we going to get to anyway???  We're not going to make this light...  

So, Pissed off and irritated I give the guy the finger as I move ahead to sit at the light...  Well then I look in my mirror and he's giving me the Bird...  I am like "WTF?"  That's like "Double Uncool"...  *Sigh*

So it should have ended there...  Light changes and we all go about our day Drama Free... RIGHT?  WRONG!!!!  This is Morning Revlis!  Not Good...

OH yeah, I throw the car in Park Whip off my seat belt and I am on my way back to fugwit.  I storm up to his drivers side window, and nearly remove it from it's track with my punch...  (Oh YEah I'm a fuggin Genius)

I yell as I punch the window "Get outta the Fuggin Car"  (Wee....  I'm a rocket scientist...) Oddly enough, the Thuggy Hooded Hardcore Gansta dude, does NOT step out of his car...  His eyes are Big as saucers as he sits back up in his seat, now realizing that indeed his driver’s window will in fact hold up...  

Then he starts running his mouth and digging around the edge of his seat...  I'm thinking at this point "Yeah Pull a Gun and see what Happens"  (Oh Yeah I'm Tough When Pissed Off) (Again, I'm a fuggin Idiot...I know this...Save your Applause).  

So he's flailing around digging for (Whatever)...  Giving me time think to myself, "Self, what the fug are you doing? Didn't we just cover this kind of stupidity yesterday?"

We'll my Gansta friend comes up empty handed, apparently the wife has the pistol today.

  I knocked on the window this time, and asked him politely to roll down his window just a bit...  He says "You fuggin touch me I'll cut you, You don't know what I am capable of!  What the Fug you thinking walking back here like this, beating on my car...?"  

I said... "You aren't going to do anything but sit there and shake."  (Yeah I'm a fuggin Hero...  Oh aren't I clever)

Then I said

"You know what though, you have a good point, What the FUG am I doing out here in the street fuggin around? This is stupid, neither of us needs this BS Hassle and Drama."  

I apologized, He had rolled his window down a bit at this point, so I shook his hand, said "sorry about the hassle man", I carefully explained why I had gotten upset, and got back in my car....

Went about my business, just in time to catch the green light...

I am WAY TOO STRESSED TO BE DEALING WITH MORNING TRAFFIC SAFELY...  

Hell, Embarrassed myself, embarrassed the Mrs.  (Oh that wasn't cool) and in general just showed my A$$ to everyone there at the intersection...  

Can you imagine how stupid I looked?  Out there walloping the side of a Mini-van?  Dress shirt tucked in, pointy beard a pointing?  I imagine myself sitting a car or two back from this scene, looking at some dude walloping the side of a mini-van and saying to the Wife... "Look as this Fuggin Idiot right here..."  "Get back in your car jack-ass..."  

Actually Rev, your little episode doesn't surprise ME one bit...

 

[bacharles]

  All right....   Just a case of "Morning Revlis" this AM...  I know even after the Talking here yesterday...

This morning I stop short at a light so I am not blocking this little residential road and those folks can be on their way.  Well I figure might as well do the nice thing because I will be sitting through a couple turns of this light anyway.  So, as I am letting a few cars out and the guy next to me is doing the same, the Light up ahead turns green.  Well there is still NO WAY we are going to make it through so I let the last guy get out onto the road ahead of me.  While doing that some dude in a Minivan behind me lays on the horn...  I was kind of irked, I mean where the fug are we going to get to anyway???  We're not going to make this light...  

So, Pissed off and irritated I give the guy the finger as I move ahead to sit at the light...  Well then I look in my mirror and he's giving me the Bird...  I am like "WTF?"  That's like "Double Uncool"...  *Sigh*

So it should have ended there...  Light changes and we all go about our day Drama Free... RIGHT?  WRONG!!!!  This is Morning Revlis!  Not Good...

OH yeah, I throw the car in Park Whip off my seat belt and I am on my way back to fugwit.  I storm up to his drivers side window, and nearly remove it from it's track with my punch...  (Oh YEah I'm a fuggin Genius)

I yell as I punch the window "Get outta the Fuggin Car"  (Wee....  I'm a rocket scientist...) Oddly enough, the Thuggy Hooded Hardcore Gansta dude, does NOT step out of his car...  His eyes are Big as saucers as he sits back up in his seat, now realizing that indeed his driver’s window will in fact hold up...  

Then he starts running his mouth and digging around the edge of his seat...  I'm thinking at this point "Yeah Pull a Gun and see what Happens"  (Oh Yeah I'm Tough When Pissed Off) (Again, I'm a fuggin Idiot...I know this...Save your Applause).  

So he's flailing around digging for (Whatever)...  Giving me time think to myself, "Self, what the fug are you doing? Didn't we just cover this kind of stupidity yesterday?"

We'll my Gansta friend comes up empty handed, apparently the wife has the pistol today.

  I knocked on the window this time, and asked him politely to roll down his window just a bit...  He says "You fuggin touch me I'll cut you, You don't know what I am capable of!  What the Fug you thinking walking back here like this, beating on my car...?"  

I said... "You aren't going to do anything but sit there and shake."  (Yeah I'm a fuggin Hero...  Oh aren't I clever)

Then I said

"You know what though, you have a good point, What the FUG am I doing out here in the street fuggin around? This is stupid, neither of us needs this BS Hassle and Drama."  

I apologized, He had rolled his window down a bit at this point, so I shook his hand, said "sorry about the hassle man", I carefully explained why I had gotten upset, and got back in my car....

Went about my business, just in time to catch the green light...

I am WAY TOO STRESSED TO BE DEALING WITH MORNING TRAFFIC SAFELY...  

Hell, Embarrassed myself, embarrassed the Mrs.  (Oh that wasn't cool) and in general just showed my A$$ to everyone there at the intersection...  

Can you imagine how stupid I looked?  Out there walloping the side of a Mini-van?  Dress shirt tucked in, pointy beard a pointing?  I imagine myself sitting a car or two back from this scene, looking at some dude walloping the side of a mini-van and saying to the Wife... "Look as this Fuggin Idiot right here..."  "Get back in your car jack-ass..."  

So now what do you do for an encore Rev?

 

[bacharles]

I figure I'd just fugg with you about it right now because I'm guessin' that MIDDAY REV is a little more rational than MORNIN' REV...

Man I wish I had that little smilie that shoots the finger at ya...

 

[MrGxr]

Good to hear things turned out for the better. Our anger and fustration with what life hands out can get the better of us somedays. Breath deep and let it out with a sigh.... things are not as bad as you think.

 

[BulletTrain]

Well at least you managed to put yourself in check before things would've really got out of hand...

Really? I don't think Rev was in check soon enough at all, and I think he would agree.

I'm thinkin' Rev was just lucky. If some guy came up to my vehicle and started punching the window I'd have no problem finding my Glock and puttin' a couple rounds through the glass and into them. It would be totally justified too. With tons of witnesses seeing him approaching my vehicle, which is stuck in traffic with no avenue of escape (stopped bumper to bumper traffic, remember?) and punching my window, with me at a distinct disadvantage if he gains entry I'd have absolutely no problem in court justifying a fear of bodily harm.

Luck, fate, whatever... pulled Rev through this unharmed, plain and simple...

I'm not judging Rev here, although I agree with him when he says it was a bonehead move. I've never went that far, but I've come very close a few times. I absolutely HATE idiot drivers and I can't think of anything that ticks me off more in traffic than to have someone behind me blow their horn at me.

I'm just sayin', this kind of stuff ain't cool. You can get killed over silly stuff like this before you even know what happened... and it ain't worth it, which was Rev's point to begin with I think...

 

[VaBusa]

**Mental Note to self***

Try to make it home without giving the finger...gonna be a boring ride!

Hey Rev...seriously, you have tons on you right now...enough on you that you're not always thinking about repercussions...you lost your cool, which we ALL do, and you regained your cool before things got bad...

You did good, and put the fear of God in to another living being...and for that, I thank you...