....and this my friend is why this forum has survived as long as it has...because we forum users are real people who can converse and learn from one another....Ok, I will take that as enough detail.
My father's grandmother was Cherokee, full blood(married a white guy, who da thunk it, lol).
I was the "Irish Bug" in school, as said my Ma's from N Ireland.
I can see that if your family was directly called a savage that it would upset you, which was Not my intention.
My interpretation of history sees native Americans helping settlers, many on both sides wanting peace, but as always, devisive folks on both sides ruined it(as you see we learn little to nothing from history).
A Native American is Not a savage to me, that title IS horrible, and needs reserved for the worst of the worst..like the Taliban.
I try to always look at the individual, so in your case, I can see your problem with the word, but again, just know it wasn't sent maliciously in your direction.
I respect people like you just based on conversation, and until this thread, I had no clue of your heritage, color, religeon, just that you are a soldier and our neighbor, who rides bikes...and that should show that color, race, heritage, etc are of little signifcance to me(respectfully) as I want to know the person, not what they appear to be.
And with that said, I will(out of respect) not use that word in any future conversations with you. And not from a sissy safe space place, but I'll rank it as racist and disrespectful to you, as it is.
Is that how I see the Taliban? Yep
Is that how I see you and your heritage?
Nope.
I would like to think this drawn out discussion can show how close 2 peoples' thought process can be, yet one detail can significantly derail an otherwise well intentioned conversation.
And that if we all(myself included) would take the time to hear the other side out, we would end up with Alot more compromise and probably some unexpected agreements.
I have a close friend of whom I've served with for many years who is a member of the Cherokee Nation...he was in the US Rangers but moved to Canada and joined our Spec Ops...great guy and I've been to meet his parents and fellow tribe members in Oklahoma...they were going to give me a tribal name but I told them my tribe had already given me one.....what a great bunch of people and they treated me like family.