You propose on a saturday, then the next day....??
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Listen to your intuition and HAUL ASS in the other direction fast!
Actually it's good that she at least senses something is wrong.
She has not shown you any respect and simply throwing her out w/out notice sounds more like something she would do. Have enough respect to at least tell her in person. Like Warputer said she may go ballistic (watch the show), cry, try to make you look/feel like the bad guy or all three.
Looks like she has enough friends to put her up for awhile so she shouldn't have any problem finding a place to stay.
Regarding her furniture, tell her she can arrange a time with you to come and pick it up. GET THE FRIGGIN' KEY FROM HER BEFORE SHE LEAVES! Take it off her key ring before she notices if you think she is going to give you hell about it.
Don't let her keep the key and say I'll come get my stuff while you're out at so and so and leave the key on the counter for you. She soounds like she may have a vindictive personality.
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i know what road to go on but how i'm gonna turn onto that road i'm not sure, i think my turn signal needs fixin.........odd enough analogy but i tried lol.
Anyone who listens to country music like the song "I Got A Brand New Girlfriend?" lol lovin that song more n more everyday
Anyone who listens to country music like the song "I Got A Brand New Girlfriend?" lol lovin that song more n more everyday
"I'm Not As Young As I Once Was" -Toby KeithGuess my song would be , "I'm not as young as I used to be" ....Toby Keith
But I know the song of which you speak.
Simply tell her that it's not going to work, and that she needs to find another place. Be nice, but firm. I wish you the best, man.
I just don't think I can do it in person, I know its PU**Y of me but I am neurotic like that. I choke up and sh*t. Its a real psychological thing. Hard for me to deal with. I was thinkin maybe a letter or somethin, explainin what someone said before bout how we can organize a time for her to come get her stuff n all?
That's the 2nd time you've said that RedKat . Do whatever is best for you man ! There's no rule book to go by on breakup's .
If I lived closer I'd do it for you !
There's nothing wrong with writing down your reasons as to why you want to break off relations to draw upon during the discussion. Look through these past threads if they help you formulate your reasoning.
You really should do it in person and YES it will get very emotional but if that is what's going to prevent you from doing the right thing at least call and do it over the phone...no Dear John letters. If you know she is a hot-head and is going to get crazy/irrational then it may be better to do it over the phone for that reason.
My aforementioned close friend called his fiance the day before flying back in town and she had her stuff moved out by the time he got back.
But you're going to have to face her sometime if she insists on sitting down to talk for closure (up to you), when she gets her furniture (you need to be there) or just when you're out and about (looks like you have a similar circle of friends).
Dude, get that friggin' ring back...that ring was a promise for marriage that was never fulfilled.
Unless you know she is going to throw it at you again, you may want to consider having your ex-gf help you out by asking her to repeatedly call you, especially when you are both together. For instance, later at night when you're both sleeping.
Or just start making solo plans w/ the guys, come home late after drinking w/out letting her know where you've been or let her catch you in a lie, tell her you've been hanging out with (insert girl's name here) and forget to do things she asked you to do. She'll give you the ring back without having to go to war over it.
lol good idea ;-) but i already got the ring back, she at work and I think i'll just leave her a letter on her car at work. That way when i see her next she'll at least know whats up instead of gettin the info that its over and dealin with movin out at the same time.
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