Alright so I figure I would get a broad opinion from my fellow Orgsters because there seem to be some level headed people on here that i respect and want to get opinions from and everyone else's is appreciated also.
So me and my wife have been married since November. We started dating in 08 when i came home from leave for the first time after boot camp. Yes i know I can already see people :duh: wondering what I am thinking because we were never really close to each other or living together, I am ready for that bashing. She is in college at Florida State University which is why she does not live here with me. Everything has been fine for the most part with your normal little arguments and the troubles you could expect with long distance. Since the first of the year things have gotten exponentially worse to where we are fighting and she is mad at me most days of the week. Saying I dont pay attention to her and i dont this and i dont that. We have, since about July of 09 when we found video chat, lol, video chat everyday when i get home from work til bed and on weekends when i am in my room. Granted there are times where I dont talk and read a lot of stuff on the Org cause frankly I am tired from being at work and just dont feel like talking and she gets mad and reems me for it. And you know how it is, once she is mad about one thing is branches out into the craziest things you can think of. And she tends to get very nasty verbally with me. I have never said a mean word to her face, not even called her stupid mind you, because that just how my mother brought me up. I do not curse around my mother which is not something she really taught me, thats just a value i developed myself. My mom curses around me but i abstain from it but i have slipped sometimes (not cursing at her). I save myself to vent to my buddies and i take out the stress when i play video games or work on the busa
Anyways back on subject. Yes so she gets real mean and says all kinds of things, Not that I am a little girl but you know when the love of your life puts you down its hurtful no matter who you are. Then when we make up its like complete opposite back to normal but its like an up down up down up down thing constantly. And lately I have just grown tired of it to the point where I almost want to end it completely. I have been excusing her from it because of her school work. Her school load is ridiculous as she is a biology major. And it seemed to me when i think about it her frustration first starts which school work then drifts to me and it doesnt seem I can stop it at all cause she just lets loose
. No self control whatsoever. Almost seems like shes still an immature brat that hasnt learned to be courteous. Since i have known her (2006), she has not been this way and when she doesnt get in her moods she is still that same old amazing loving girl i fell in love with. but when shes mad shes a wholeeee different person Then tries to tell me I am the selfish one and its all about me... Then when i try to tell her thats not it at all she goes into that rant about "oh i am just a terrible person then". I dont know. Anyway I am just getting tired of it and she has nearly 2 more years of college remaining and I just dont think I can take it. It was fine for the longest time and just when the littlest things stress her she just goes into terrible moods. It is finally starting to get to me i think after a few months of it. I used to have to deal with the moods maybe once a month or so but not its every other day or days at a time.
Right now we are on a hardly talking basis just because she said she doesnt want me to talk to her. This started last night when she called me upset about her school load again having a exam today, an oral tomorrow, an exam friday, and a couple other things friday and monday. So i was just listening to her talk telling her i loved her and that and then she gets mad cause she says i dont care and all that and dont reassure her its going to be okay but when i used to reassure her all the time she would get mad at me... so not to avoid that I dont say it but she still gets mad
Truth be told I could not handle that load without wanting to go up a wall which is why up until now I have been so understanding.
When i sit and think about it I just imagine being in person and taking this crap when the smallest things stress her.
Our religious beliefs dont match up which is bad to start with. Shes not anti religion but she doesnt want anything to do with it... I know bad choice but you cant help who you fall in love with.
The main problem I have with it is how she completely disrespects me without remorse and without thinking before she speaks. Her mom and sister has asked me many times how i deal with her and if I am going to be able to live with her forever and her sister asked me again yesterday and i couldn't even answer this time...
Live and learn I guess. So let the opinions fly, good and bad, I dont care. I put my thick skin on and opened my ears
Im 22 and I need the wisdom of the more experienced people
Ask questions and I can elaborate and go more in depth on some things. Im now really shy about it cause I want to fix it most of all rather that be to end it or just wait it out til shes out of college but Im just afraid it may be the same and its much easier to end it now then wait it out...
Yeah kind of lame to post it online but like i said I want opinions. I know this kind of makes me look like I am just a wuss who cant take it but the mere fact is its been going on for a while and since I am so good to her I just cant see why i deserve to be treated like s**t so much for the dumbest reasons. I just gave generalized things but trust me for me to get to this points its pretty serious. Made me want to punch a wall many a times. Young and stupid? Perhaps I am
About to just make the Busa the only love of my life
End blabbering.
So me and my wife have been married since November. We started dating in 08 when i came home from leave for the first time after boot camp. Yes i know I can already see people :duh: wondering what I am thinking because we were never really close to each other or living together, I am ready for that bashing. She is in college at Florida State University which is why she does not live here with me. Everything has been fine for the most part with your normal little arguments and the troubles you could expect with long distance. Since the first of the year things have gotten exponentially worse to where we are fighting and she is mad at me most days of the week. Saying I dont pay attention to her and i dont this and i dont that. We have, since about July of 09 when we found video chat, lol, video chat everyday when i get home from work til bed and on weekends when i am in my room. Granted there are times where I dont talk and read a lot of stuff on the Org cause frankly I am tired from being at work and just dont feel like talking and she gets mad and reems me for it. And you know how it is, once she is mad about one thing is branches out into the craziest things you can think of. And she tends to get very nasty verbally with me. I have never said a mean word to her face, not even called her stupid mind you, because that just how my mother brought me up. I do not curse around my mother which is not something she really taught me, thats just a value i developed myself. My mom curses around me but i abstain from it but i have slipped sometimes (not cursing at her). I save myself to vent to my buddies and i take out the stress when i play video games or work on the busa
Anyways back on subject. Yes so she gets real mean and says all kinds of things, Not that I am a little girl but you know when the love of your life puts you down its hurtful no matter who you are. Then when we make up its like complete opposite back to normal but its like an up down up down up down thing constantly. And lately I have just grown tired of it to the point where I almost want to end it completely. I have been excusing her from it because of her school work. Her school load is ridiculous as she is a biology major. And it seemed to me when i think about it her frustration first starts which school work then drifts to me and it doesnt seem I can stop it at all cause she just lets loose
. No self control whatsoever. Almost seems like shes still an immature brat that hasnt learned to be courteous. Since i have known her (2006), she has not been this way and when she doesnt get in her moods she is still that same old amazing loving girl i fell in love with. but when shes mad shes a wholeeee different person Then tries to tell me I am the selfish one and its all about me... Then when i try to tell her thats not it at all she goes into that rant about "oh i am just a terrible person then". I dont know. Anyway I am just getting tired of it and she has nearly 2 more years of college remaining and I just dont think I can take it. It was fine for the longest time and just when the littlest things stress her she just goes into terrible moods. It is finally starting to get to me i think after a few months of it. I used to have to deal with the moods maybe once a month or so but not its every other day or days at a time. Right now we are on a hardly talking basis just because she said she doesnt want me to talk to her. This started last night when she called me upset about her school load again having a exam today, an oral tomorrow, an exam friday, and a couple other things friday and monday. So i was just listening to her talk telling her i loved her and that and then she gets mad cause she says i dont care and all that and dont reassure her its going to be okay but when i used to reassure her all the time she would get mad at me... so not to avoid that I dont say it but she still gets mad
Truth be told I could not handle that load without wanting to go up a wall which is why up until now I have been so understanding.
When i sit and think about it I just imagine being in person and taking this crap when the smallest things stress her.
Our religious beliefs dont match up which is bad to start with. Shes not anti religion but she doesnt want anything to do with it... I know bad choice but you cant help who you fall in love with.
The main problem I have with it is how she completely disrespects me without remorse and without thinking before she speaks. Her mom and sister has asked me many times how i deal with her and if I am going to be able to live with her forever and her sister asked me again yesterday and i couldn't even answer this time...
Live and learn I guess. So let the opinions fly, good and bad, I dont care. I put my thick skin on and opened my ears
Im 22 and I need the wisdom of the more experienced people
Ask questions and I can elaborate and go more in depth on some things. Im now really shy about it cause I want to fix it most of all rather that be to end it or just wait it out til shes out of college but Im just afraid it may be the same and its much easier to end it now then wait it out...
Yeah kind of lame to post it online but like i said I want opinions. I know this kind of makes me look like I am just a wuss who cant take it but the mere fact is its been going on for a while and since I am so good to her I just cant see why i deserve to be treated like s**t so much for the dumbest reasons. I just gave generalized things but trust me for me to get to this points its pretty serious. Made me want to punch a wall many a times. Young and stupid? Perhaps I am
About to just make the Busa the only love of my life
End blabbering.
